“When you're different, sometimes you don't see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn't.” ― Jodi Picoult

Some days are better than others for those of us who struggle with letting go of old baggage. It could be learning how to have confidence in yourself again, or it could be learning how to mend a broken heart after a failed relationship ends. Either way, the situations that occur every day may affect your life, but it doesn’t have to control it.

When you are in a toxic relationship for so long, a part of you forgets to have a love for yourself.

It's perfectly normal in this situation to abandon yourself in an effort to keep the bad relationship alive. It's at that very point when we fall out of love with ourselves. You're not only compromising your love for yourself but your also abandoning your self-worth and significance to another person who could potentially work out much better. If you never know how to let go, then how are you ever going to regain the love you once had for yourself?

It's crucial at any age to learn how to become independent from people and learn how to stand on your own two feet. This will give you a sense of accomplishments and will help you find your self-worth once again. In the long run, you will be okay. There will be so much more happiness and light that lies ahead than what is behind you.

Believe it or not, you can move forward with your life.

However, you're not going to get very far if you still have one foot on the brakes. Sometimes we are hesitant to let go of our emotional baggage and tendencies because in some way we are still attached to them. What you’ll find in the long run though is that it takes far more energy to hold onto something negative than it does to let go. One of the happiest moments you can possibly experience in life is when you learn to let go of whatever you cannot change. Letting go is hard but holding on is harder. When your heart is broken, the cracks make way for new light to get in. All that’s left to do after letting go is to embrace it, and enjoy your freedom and newfound self-worth.

I think the hardest lesson I ever had to go through was learning how to forgive those who once did me wrong and caused me so much pain. It goes hand in hand with letting go, though. What good is letting go of your baggage when you are still holding a grudge against the person that hurt you? It takes a very strong person to understand that sometimes, it's healthier to move on with your life even if the other person isn’t ready to.

You have to learn to forgive them for their wrongdoings.

The person who hurt you could be struggling from their past or their inner-demons. Whatever the reason is, some people are not ready yet to open up their hearts to a life filled with happiness and love. Those particular people have not yet done the work to move on with their lives and leave the past in the past. You can only be responsible for yourself and your own happiness.

The first step to falling back in love with yourself is understanding what you are and are not willing to compromise on. Never abandon yourself in the effort to keep someone or something. If someone else has something to say about your process of becoming who you are, tune them out! You are on this planet for yourself and only you will know what works best for you.

You now have a chance to be happier than you have ever been before ― you can realize everything that is holding you back and create a life that you want to live.