I personally have found myself in this situation more times than I would like to admit.
You meet a guy, and at first, he seems too good to be true. Attractive, funny, smart, outgoing, and doesn’t give a shit about what others think. Well, like I said in the beginning, it is too good to be true. Ladies, we all want to be loved by a guy. We want someone in our lives that makes us feel special; Someone that makes us feel like a princess.
A guy that goes out of his way to show you he loves you, makes you smile and surprises you with flowers. We want a partner, a person that brings out the best version of yourself. We want a guy that isn’t afraid to show you off. We want a guy that isn’t afraid to let himself fall in love. But alas, in the world we live in today, does this type of love even exist anymore?
Now, in my 19 years of life, I have never once had a boyfriend, so I can’t really give you relationship advice but, I do know what it’s like to fall for a guy that truly doesn’t care about you.
He is friendly and funny and good-looking, but he is also selfish and insecure and prideful. He is a wonderful friend and a great listener and gives great advice, but he doesn’t open up much and he blames his past for his actions. You fall for him anyway, knowing that he will hurt you, knowing that you will hurt yourself but, there’s that voice in your head, feeding you false hope.
You hold on to that false hope and ignore those around you warning you about this boy.
You fall deeper and deeper for this boy and as you continue to fall, he continues to see you as a friend, and only a friend. He talks to other girls and you stay up at night thinking about him. You hold on to every word that comes out of his mouth while everything you say to him goes in one ear and out the other. He clearly doesn’t give a shit about you while he means the world to you.
Ladies, IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON.
I have found myself in this predicament more than once before, and it is always too late when I realize it is time to move on. But, I am still learning from my mistakes and I have come to realize, I am better than this. I am better than the guy that can’t give me the time of day. I am better than the guy that makes me believe he is different. I am better than the guy that can’t look me in the eye.
I deserve someone that won’t take advantage of me. I deserve someone that truly wants what is best for me. Maybe I hold on to the guy that doesn’t give a shit because I think I can change him for the better but at a certain point, he is way past the point of change. I fall too hard, too fast, and get too emotionally invested in someone that has no emotion.
So, to all the girls that hold on to guys that don’t care about them at all, the best thing you can do for yourself is, letting go.
Let go of that boy that causes you to stay up late at night. In the end, guys don’t know a good thing, until it’s gone.