“There are several rules in life that girls just know. It’s the girl code if you will...don’t take another girls man.”
This article starts off with a really good opener and you start to connect with the author and what she is saying.
However..
She then goes on to say that she did, in fact, break this rule but defends herself by saying she did them a favor.
“They’d both be miserable because she’d be with someone who wasn’t all in. And she deserves more than that. He deserves more than that. I hope I’m his forever person, but even if I’m not, I know this was supposed to happen.”
I hate to attack someone for this, but coming from a girl who has been in both positions, please stop.
I think all girls deep down inside will admit that they have had feelings for a guy that, unfortunately, is in a relationship. At that point, you have two options. Wait around for him and hope the relationship ends or simply move on and accept that it’s not going to happen.
Or you can be a crappy person and try to manipulate the situation.
And let me tell you, once you have done that you will NEVER be able to forgive yourself for that.
Because I did that.
Granted, at the time I thought I was doing the right thing. I was “following my heart” by telling that guy I had feelings for him knowing good and well that he was in a relationship.
But at the same time, I was pouring ideas into his head that at the end of the day just confused him and ended up ruining a really good relationship that he had. All because I chose that my happiness was more important than another girl’s. And that’s so dangerous and downright wrong.
I told myself that I wasn’t ruining their relationship. That I wasn’t doing anything wrong.
That if my telling him I had feelings for him made him question his relationship - then the relationship was just a mess and that it had nothing to do with me.
Through social media, I watched this girl have her heart broken. I watched her confused and hurt and once she realized that I was involved - get angry.
I watched a girl who, even though I've never met, who seemed like a genuinely good person, get angry because of something that I did.
She had every right to be furious.
Time after time he would tell me AND her that it wasn’t because of me.
But deep down, I knew that had I just kept my feelings to myself and my mouth shut, that relationship would have played out the way it was supposed to. Without my interference. They could still be together or they could not. But it would have nothing to do with me and I wouldn’t feel guilt hanging over me all the time.
“I broke the cardinal rule and I don’t regret it.”
Well, sweetheart, one day you will. It may take a week, a month, or even two years for you to realize that awful thing that you did and it’s going to slap you in the face. Just be ready.
