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You Are Not The Girl That is Going to "Change" Him

These guys are set in their ways

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It's a very stereotypical movie plot. Girl meets bad boy, magically changes him for the better, and then they end up together. Sounds believable right? Wrong. Now some of you may be reading this thinking, "This girl has no idea what she's talking about!" This, in many ways, is a true statement, but I'm going to give my opinion anyway. Let me start off by saying that the following article isn't going to apply to everyone, you may be exception to this rule and that's great. So this is for everyone else out there who may not be so lucky.

Every girl wants to believe that they are going to be the special someone who can change a "bad boy" for the better. We've all attempted it and I'm pretty sure we've all failed. The first problem is that we are going after guys that we want to change. Why are we seeking romantic relationships with people that we don't really like, but will like, once we change who they are completely...? Imagine if a guy was seeking you out just so he could change you into what he wanted. Doesn't sound so nice when it's put that way, does it?

Now, if a guy is a player, that's a whole other ballgame (player...get it?). They are expert smooth talkers. Like completely brilliant at it actually, they know exactly what to say and when to say it. A guy like this wants you to think that he can be changed. He'll then convince that your magical powers worked and he's a saint now. The player will then proceed to get exactly what he wants, whatever he wants, and then he'll leave you and find the next girl to trick. I mean why would he change? He knows how to get exactly what he wants.

The worst part of this whole thing is when you find out that the guy you "changed" is really just playing with your emotions. They have no intention of staying with you, and why would they, you want to change them. Even though all of the talk was fake, your feelings were real, and it hurts like a b**ch when any relationship ends. You might feel cheated or even tricked and no one wants to go through that.

Ladies, instead of picking guys that you feel the need to change, pick guys who are what you want already. The bad boy may seem like a fun time, but trust me, in the end it will just lead to heart break. Another thing to remember is that him not changing his ways has nothing to do with you. It's not like you aren't good enough to change him, it's that he is set in his ways and getting exactly what he wants out of life. That guy would probably be very lucky to have you, but at this point in time he is too blind to see it. I'm told that there are still good guys out there somewhere, so just keep searching. One day you will find a man that you don't feel the need to change because he is perfect for you.


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