An artist whom I've adored over the years, Demi Lovato, made headlines when she was no longer sober. And recently, she overdosed on a drug.
In the comment sections on multiple social media platforms, many people have blamed Lovato with harsh judgment such as, "She knew what she was doing, she shouldn't have done it." Or, "I thought she already received help. Stop saying, 'Oh, we're praying for you,' while casting judgment on others who have an addiction."
It's appalling that people think addiction is a choice instead of a strong sensation of needing it. People may have had a choice in starting, but trying to end it is even harder.
You never know what they are going through. Yes, life is hard on everybody, but some people handle it differently than others. For instance, say you're having a really bad week or you're in a really rough situation, and one of the ways to feel better, or at least numb, would be to try drinking. There are many people who drink casually, but sometimes, when people drink it more often, such as once a week, then their body may tolerate alcohol even more.
Just because they are going through a hard time, it doesn't mean people should judge.
You don't know the journey they are on, just as they don't know yours either. If you see someone in need, try and be kind because they might need kindness to get them through.
The more their body is tolerant of it, then the more they might drink. There are thousands of reasons why people might pick up a habit. And if they spiral out of control, then it would be nice if someone they know and love point it out and try to get them help.
Once they received the help that they need, they might seem fine. But they could relapse a year or two later, and they might need help again. Just because they've received it one time, it doesn't mean their life will always be happy and satisfied. Sometimes, it's ok to go receive help over and over again. It really depends on your mindset because I know people who are addicted to something can get through it, but it won't be an easy process. I can only imagine.
Once someone starts a bad habit, it might feel like they need to depend on it because nothing else in this world seems reliable. When really, it might be the habit that's taken over your mind that's telling you, "You need me." It takes over your mind, emotions, actions, and motivation.
Bottom line is, show empathy to someone and try to be in their shoes. If you still can't understand then walk away, but don't be rude.
