It’s quite natural to spend time still thinking about your significant other for some time after whatever kind of relationship you have had with them ends. But if two months have passed by and then eight months, and next thing you know its been a little over a year and you start to have an anniversary for the breakup, that’s when you start to think that something is clearly wrong with you. I’m here to tell you that nothing is wrong with you and you are just being a human. People move on at their own pace. Some need a little push or help from others while some move on like it was no big deal and there is nothing wrong with that. For those still caught up about it here are some things I have dealt with:
You will feel like a complete fool after
Trust me, been there done that. I reflect back on all the times I would invest all of my time lurking him and think about how much of an idiot I was. It gets better, though. If you were like me, you would know what it was like to constantly tweet about that certain someone just to get his attention. I’m constantly contemplating about everyone who got to experience and read all of my nonsense, and now all I feel embarrassment. From quoting love songs and love quotes to sub-tweeting him — mortified to say the least.
Your friends will always bring him up
It’s inevitable. Your friends were there through it all with you. They were there to see you cry your eyes out and be a shoulder to lean on even after they have told you numerous times he was not a good idea. Naturally, after some time they will bring up the humiliating moments of “remember when you guys first went on a date” or “remember when you ignored all of your friends and only spent time with him because you were so head over heels for him” and so on.
There is always going to be that one family member that asks about him
Whether if its your mom, dad, grandma, cousin or even your little brother or sister, no matter how much time has gone by or how unpleasant things ended, they will always hit you with the “So how is _______ doing?” question. Although you might have no clue how they are actually doing, you just try to act collected and answer as if you perfectly knew how they were doing because who wants to play 21 questions with your relatives on your ex.
Although you may be over him, a lingering thought of him will always be there
Whatever times you both shared together are going to be kept in a special compartment inside of you that to you, will always be there. Especially if he was the first person you have ever felt such strong feelings for. We all know everyone’s first of anything is something no one will ever forget. Whether if you still talk to him or not, are friends with him or not, there will be a moment from time to time that the slightest thing will remind you of him. It’s just be one of those little details you will have to live with.
It's OK, you will be OK
You may think at the very moment that you will never recover or ever be the same, but that is just your dramatic side taking over. Give it some time. You will look back and laugh or maybe cringe from it. It’s a learning process, and it is all a part of this crazy beautiful life.
