Breaking up is probably one of the worst things you will experience. I know, that sounds pretty rough, but sadly, it's the truth. No one can really sugarcoat it or say anything good about them, even though we wish we could. However, when going through a breakup, you need to accept your feelings and embrace them, not shove them back.
Some people try to hide their feelings during a breakup and act like they are perfectly cool and okay with it. I mean, maybe some people are actually okay with it and that is their way of dealing with things, and that's okay too. Well, if you are the type of person, like me, who gets really affected by these types of things, do not hide your feelings.
Don't feel obligated to go out every night and hookup with a bunch of guys or girls. I mean, that can be a way of dealing with things, but also realize that it could make you feel worse. Eat 4 gallons of ice cream, eat tons of candy, watch a bunch of movies, spend time in bed, listen to music, go for a run, spend time with friends, and let it all out. Honestly, even just cry. As weird as it is to say, crying helps so much and can make you feel better when you just let it out.
When I was going through a breakup, It was honestly so strange. There were some days when I was kind of happy and positive, and then the next thing you know, I'm in a ball, crying my eyes out on my bed. I know, sounds pretty sad. My friends and family would try to comfort me and everything and tell me to stop looking at pictures and thinking about him. But, it was almost impossible not to. This is someone that you shared everything in your life with, talked to every day, cared for and loved. How can you forget about them so quickly? The answer to that is, you can't. And that is all part of the process.
While breaking up is difficult, it is a chance for you to look back on your relationship and think about what happened and why you are no longer together. It can either make you realize that both of you deserve better and you can be happier, or the time apart can make you realize that you actually need to be with each other. Now if a situation happens where you realize that you want to be with them, but they don't want to be with you, then that can feel like another pain added. However, that will only make you stronger and teach you that you deserve someone who wants you more than anything in the world. We all deserve that.
Another thing a breakup can teach you, and probably the most important thing, is to love yourself. During a breakup, you are battling with your own emotions and adjusting to a new time without someone you once loved. It is hard. But in that time, you will learn to love yourself and take care of yourself more than you ever did before. I mean think about it, you once were putting 90% of your love and attention to someone else, and now you are putting it all on yourself. Which is amazing, because you must love yourself first before you love anyone else.
As time goes on, it will get easier. The really sad days will start to turn into okay days, and then eventually into happier days. It definitely takes time to get to be 100% okay, but it will happen. And the only way to get there is to accept all of your emotions and to tell yourself that it will be okay. You will realize great things about yourself because you will be stronger than ever from it.
It is important to understand that sometimes, things don't workout, and that's okay. They don't workout for a reason, and that reason will teach you about what you truly deserve. Every single relationship we have is there to teach us different things about ourselves. Eventually, they will help you get to the perfect somebody for you. It takes time to heal, and during that process you will learn many things, but most importantly, you will learn to love yourself before anyone else.
