Ghosting, or as I have been referring to it as, "oh he stopped talking to me out of nowhere and I have no idea why," has become increasingly common.
According to Urban Dictionary, ghosting is "The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date."
Ghosting is done with the hopes that the person being ghosted, or the ghostee will take the lack of communication as a hint that the ghoster is uninterested and should be left alone.
Let's say you meet someone you develop feelings for, the two of you spend time together, maybe go on a few dates and really start to enjoy each other's company.
Eventually, both of you wonder where your relationship stands and wonder that the other is looking for. In my experience, ghosting tends to happen when you are about to have the, "what are we?" conversation.
However, ghosting doesn't happen overnight. It's a slow, and typically a painful process. Let's say you text them the next day to see how they're doing or to try to hang out with them.
You know they typically text you back within a few seconds, or minutes but this time, it's a couple of hours. Then it becomes a day. Then it's been a week. And just like that, they're gone.
You get the idea, in most situations you'll never hear from them again. They might still follow you on Snapchat and have you on Instagram. Odds are they'll view your Snapchat and Instagram stories every day too. But, will they actually talk to you? Nope.
At first, you'll be impatiently waiting for a text back from them. After a full day, if not a few days you may wonder if they're doing okay since you haven't heard from them
Your mind begins to race and you assume that they met somebody else or you try to think of what you could have possibly done to upset them. In the end, deep down, you know in the back of your mind that it's over and there's no looking back.
Yes, since I was able to write this lengthy, detailed description about ghosting I think it is safe to say that you guys can tell I've been ghosted before. Always remember you did absolutely nothing wrong, he made the decision himself and you deserve closure. It's okay to cry it out do not let it get to you.
Additionally, don't stalk their social media and don't reread old text messages. Delete any pictures you have with them and don't look back. I promise, you won't be alone forever and this will pass. Ghosting is not the end of the world, life goes on and everything will be okay.
