Ah, I just love the smell of relationships. But of course, all good things must come to an end. Recently, one of my close friends was broken up with. Instead of creating some actual damage to her ex-boyfriend's car, I thought it would be better to help her and the other ladies out there that have had their hearts broken before. Here are 11 ways to get over the asshole that won't ever get anyone as great as you!
1. Cry
Crying is good for the soul. Don't think of it as a sign of weakness. It just your heart trying to cope. Remember: It's okay to cry!
2. Spend time with your friendsÂ
Ever since my friend became single, she's been spending more time hanging with the people that have cared about her all along. Since the breakup, she's seemed happier, more energetic, and most of all, herself. Your friends bring out the best in you. And even when you don't want to smile because you're sad, your friends will be there to listen and take you out of that funk with a stupid joke.
3. Delete themÂ
Okay, now I know this one may be hard or it may be "too soon." But, the longer you keep them on your social media, have them in your phone or see a picture of you two together, it's going to be harder to get rid of that person you once thought could be "the one." You don't have to do this the day after, but hopefully, sometime soon after the breakup, they'll no longer have a place in your virtual life.
4. Comfort foodÂ
Did somebody say ice cream?
5. Slowly but surely start getting ridding of "stuff"Â
You know the stuff I'm talking about. The necklace that he gave you two years ago on Valentine's Day doesn't matter anymore. Getting rid of those little things you two shared will help you to not only part with him but move forward in your life.
6. Go for a runÂ
We all know once those endorphins are released, there's no taking you out of a good mood. Get those legs going, headphones in your ears, and heart rate up. Your mood will go from zero to a hundred real quick.
7. Go out and live your best lifeÂ
Whether that's staying in with a glass of wine or having a night out at the club with your girls, go out and live your best life. Now's the time to be free and focus on yourself! Get to know you're fun side.
8. Understand that there will be other people Â
This one may be very hard to really grasp, but I know you're strong and that you can do it. One breakup is not the end of the world. Think about it this way - everything happens for a reason. Maybe your prince charming is right around the corner!
9. Listen to musicÂ
Plug in your headphones and just get in your feelings. It doesn't matter if you have a "Fuck You" playlist dedicated to him or an "I Still Love You" playlist. Get those feelings out. Just vibe.
10. Write out what you're feelingÂ
Writing helps me clear my head so much. Just getting your thoughts out onto a piece of paper really helps to see where your mind is at. Don't think. Just write what you feel.
11. Go in the mirror and tell yourself, "I deserve better"Â
Trust me, honey. You can do better.
Breakups are not easy to get through, but just know that a day will come when your daughter is crying about the boy who broke her heart. Tell her the story about how yours broke and how you got through it. The strongest women are the most admirable.
