“Get you a man that…”

“Find a guy who…”

“Choose the guy that…”

We’ve seen these kinds of posts everywhere lately, right? Regardless of what characteristics follow those words, they all deliver more or less the same message - find this ever so perfect guy who does things most guys don’t.

Buys you pizza and pays for your Netflix? Kisses your forehead and tells you he loves you? Shows you off to his friends and brings you flowers? All of these combinations are these adorable concepts about boyfriends and the general idea that these actions comprise of a perfect boyfriend. When I was single and read these posts, I laughed. I thought they were funny and cute and would want to indulge in a guy who did do those things. Now? My heart just swells. It does simply because I have a guy who does all those things. It’s pretty…crazy. I used to fantasize about all these funny things that are thrown around about what things guys should do or actually do that make a girl swoon. Now I’m living my own fantasy. I’m growing more and more aware of it the more often these posts come up on my newsfeed or dashboard. They’re kind of like little reminders now about how lucky I am and how I shouldn’t take any of it for granted. How I should savor and appreciate all the little things about my boyfriend. He doesn’t just fit one or two of those “stereotype” posts, he fits them all. A total side note but would that be an appropriately designated term? Stereotype? It has become a bit of a stereotype right? Less based on a actually trend but deriving more from a general consensus among a good amount of girls about what makes a boyfriend have that wow factor. Anyway, I digress. We always long for this guy that we create in our minds. The perfect guy. Our perfect guy. The man of our dreams I will address this figure as. Well mine once told me something I overlooked at first but has grown in importance as more time passes. It’s a feeling of fondness, affection, adoration, or what not you get when you just find this right person. It’s a feeling that you’re not entirely clear about when you don’t have it, but will know for sure when you do. I may be a bit off and he will most likely scold me when I recite this to him about my ambiguity but I know I feel it. I’m feeling that I have it right now and I know I can accredit it to being because I have himright now. And I hope that everyone gets to feel this feeling as well.

The last think I’ll ever want to do is take you for granted. With all the notifications I have on social media about “getting a guy who…” I’m constantly reminded about how lucky I am to already have him. So till this moment I still get butterflies when I see him after a while, whether it be a few weeks, a day, or an hour. Why? Because I’ve become painfully aware that I am literally dating the man of my dreams.