To my future wife, whomever she may be:

Throughout my life, I have dreamt of the perfect girl. Someone who holds unwavering love for me, just as I do for her. I have dreamt of someone that I can have fun with, while also co-creating success. These are feelings that I am very aware you have as well. As you can imagine, my expectations have always been high because of these dreams. I also recognize how your expectations are most likely just as daunting, as they should be. We both want someone that is confident, proud, and loyal. While I'm certain that you are all of these things and more, I believe in what follows quite firmly.

We are meant to be together, but we are not perfect for one another. I believe that everyone has that person they are supposed to find. After finding and obtaining a person's love, I find that couples tend to progressively put in less effort towards keeping that love. Effort is the biggest key. I hope our relationship is based on effort, effort to keep that same amount of love and respect. We will not always be able to read each other, and thus putting in the effort to talk issues out will be huge. The "spark" of our relationship is something I hope never goes away. I always want us to be searching for new ways to explore the world and enjoy our life together, no differently will that also require effort. Yes, we have tons of dreams and expectations for what "we should be like". The most important expectation needs to be effort.

Undoubtedly, we will always be biased to our specific needs and expectations. Among everything you expect, there is one thing that I want you to always ask of me. You will ask to always come first. In my heart, my decisions, and wherever else you could imagine. I cannot honestly say that I am a completely self-less individual, all humans are a tad selfish. You must expect that you will come first, and not be ashamed to tell me when I am thinking of just myself. This not only makes me feel needed and loved, but it is what you deserve.

To conclude, I am sure I was an absolute mess when we first met. Stunned probably is the best word.

Cannot wait to see you read this and smile.

Grant Allen