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3 Lessons On Heartbreak I Know My Future Self Will Need

I hope you laugh reading this.

Maddie Lesko

Nov 20, 2018

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You are currently a first-semester freshman in college. You just experienced your first real heartbreak. You and your boyfriend broke up this past week. The hardest part is that he lives in the same dorm as you, so you're bound to see him whether you would like to or not. Although you are feeling down right now, I am going to write some words of wisdom.

Everything happens for a reason

You live by this saying. You're even getting a tattoo that says this. Never forget that "everything happens for a reason," especially during the rough times. This will keep you going. Sometimes bad things happen in order to allow good things to happen. You have to keep looking at things in this way. It's gotten you through plenty before, and I hope it will still get you through plenty in the future. I'm hoping by the time my future self is reading this, I understand why I had to feel heartbreak like this so soon in college, and I'm hoping something else that is good will come out of the negatives.

You are strong

You have had people criticize you your whole life. Whether it is how you look, act, dress, smile all the time, etc... Do not let their comments change you. Stay true to yourself. We all know you're the outgoing girl who loves going out with her friends, dancing with them, and smiling the whole night because you just can't stop. You have gotten through plenty in your past with friend breakups, and even other types of breakups, you can get through this one too. You can get through anything, don't lose sight of that.

Everything is a lesson

I have to constantly remind myself that everything is a lesson now, even though I never want to accept it. I'm hoping by the time I am reading this, it is ingrained into my mind. Bad things happen so you can learn from them. If bad things never happened, you would never be taught anything. You wouldn't know how to persevere and be the strong, independent woman you are today. This heartbreak happened for a reason. Others are definitely coming in the near future. They will happen for you to learn. It will shape you into your future self.

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83% of my trends in college would have been shamed in high school.

1. Eat

2. Be seen running across campus

3. Sleep

4. Skip Class

5. Blurt out

6. Wear dresses

7. Wear Crocs

8.Run on 4 hours of sleep

9. Use a Laptop

10. Crying

Because smiling gives you wrinkles.

1. “When I first met you, I thought you were a b*tch.”

2. Somebody asks you if you’re mad at them at least once a day.

3. You always look unamused. Even when you are very amused.

4. Anna Wintour is your spirit animal.

5. You are never approached by people who are tabling on campus.

6. You have to practice smiling before you get your photo taken.

7. The word “judgmental” is thrown at you on the daily.

8. You make people visibly uncomfortable in section by glancing at them.

9. Your parents thought that this was just part of a teenage phase, but this is actually just your face.

10. Your face could get you out of jury duty.

It hits hard in college.

1. Excitement of the final year

2. Trying to take easy classes to make it out alive

3. Does attendance count for a grade?

4. Skipping once won't hurt me

5. Wait that is due?

6. I'm just trying to graduate

7. I'll just do this assignment during my other class

8. Patiently waiting

9. Rejection

10. Accepting that you might have gotten a degree for nothing

11. Probably should have studied for that test

12. Sanity > class

13. Finally an acceptance letter

14. Oh yeah, finals

15. Graduating!

You might not see them everyday anymore, but you're still friends and your text messages prove it.

1. "Should I skip class today?"

2. "Did you hear ________ is engaged?"

3. "When are you coming home?"

4. "I finally talked to the cute guy in my science lecture."

5. GIFs, on GIFs, on GIFs.

6. "I saw the cutest puppy on my walk to class this morning!"

7. "Do you remember when we ________ at ________?"

8. "I miss you."

Sometimes these things are both necessary and inevitable.

1. Spending their money - when they actually don't have any.

2. Take naps. Lots of naps.

3. Staying up late binge-watching a Netflix show when you have an early class.

4. Skip a class to do something completely unnecessary.

5. Putting all your homework off for the night before it's due just so you can do nothing for a night.

6. Going out on a Thursday night when you have a test the next day.

7. Making impulsive decisions.

8. Write an important paper in one night.

9. Classifying Ramen as your main food group.

10. Going on late night food runs - and I mean really late.

11. Having more than 3 cups of coffee a day.

12. Doing really dumb, irresponsible things when out with your friends.

13. Finishing an entire show on Netflix in less than a week.

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