Dear His Future,

I do not hate you. Not in the slightest. I could be a stereotypical crazy ex-girlfriend and say a cluster of negative things about you and him, but there is no need. I may not ever meet you, but there is no doubt in my mind that you know who I am. Maybe he described me as the girl who showed him what love really is, or the girl who saved him from being alone forever. He might even say I was the one he was supposed to marry -- he would say something sweet and sappy like that. But I am not important anymore. What is important is you, and I need you. I need you more than he needs you, because I need you to heal his heart.

Please tell him you love him everyday. Every hour. Every minute. Don’t just say it to say it, either. Love him unconditionally, because he has so much love in his heart to give you. He will tell you that you look the most beautiful when you don’t even try. He loves a girl who is comfy. He will cook amazing dinners for you, let you pick what to watch on Netflix, and massage your feet until you laugh from it tickling too much. He will want to constantly spoil you, but don’t let him; tell him it is appreciated, but not needed. He will randomly give you flowers just because he loves you, so make sure you always have a vase ready. When you have your period, he will bring you Advil, chicken nuggets, chocolate, and whatever you want to make you feel better. He will always give you 120 % of himself. Be his biggest fan; he is going to look to you for comfort and happiness. He will think of you as his home.

If you ever get to meet his family, don’t get nervous like I did. Realize how much his family means to him. Listen to him talk about his mom; she was so precious to him, and she got taken from him while he was so young. January is especially hard, so always give him a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. His family has shaped him into the patient, God-loving man that he is now, so appreciate them with your whole being. Someday, they might be the best in-laws you could ever ask for.

Also, do not be afraid to fight, but make sure you are fighting to fix what is broken. He is sensitive. He will take what you say personally, so please be careful with your words. He is fragile, but I promise he loves you more than you know. Treat him like a king, because he deserves it. Unfortunately that person was not me, but I am hoping it can be you.

I have no hesitation that you could become the woman for him that I tried so hard to be. Don’t take your time with him for granted like I did. When you hug him, hold onto him tight. When he smiles at you, smile back. Laugh when he says something corny, and don’t be afraid to cry in front of him. When it gets tough and it would be easier to just give up, don’t. Hold on with everything you’ve got. Take in the little things and let them mean so, so much. I trust that you will take care of him and help him become the best version of himself.

Finally, I want you to soak up all of the memories you make together. I wish you nothing but the best. That man is worth every tear, curse word, and slamming door. He is even worth the heartbreak at the end of the relationship. Don’t let him name one of your kids Goku, or Langston Love. He loves garlic bread, soft blankets, and scary movies. Make sure you appreciate the mix CDs that he makes you, because he puts so much thought and effort into every single song choice. Push him to get out of his comfort zone. Believe in his dreams. Let him be your anchor.

Let him love you. And heal his heart.

All the best,

His Past