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Nov 27, 2016

From The Girl That Wants Kids And A Career

Chances are if you are female anywhere between 18-22, you get asked constantly when you are going to have kids and how many you want and so on and so forth. AND THEN the next dreaded question usually follows: So what are your plans after school (whether it's high school or college)? These questions together are a terrible and scary concoction. I hope I don't have to deal with this again for the next couple years because there is so many things wrong with this line of questioning.

I would like to start by saying first and foremost: IT IS OKAY TO WANT KIDS AND A CAREER. It is okay for you to take some time of your life to take care of yourself, your future life, and well being. Do not let any one tell you that you can't have both. I mean of course you do have to draw the line when it comes to spending too much time on work and not enough time on your kids (that is a completely different argument that I will not be getting into at this time). But making sure you have a career that you know will supply happiness, and financial stability for the rest of your life is absolutely needed, especially in this day in age.

This is not a time where women NEED to be only stay at home moms (this isn't a diss to stay at home moms, go you guys!). Granted, they can be if they are financially stable and just all around have the capability of doing so, but by no means should we limit or shame the moms that want both.

You can want AND have both. You can go to school and get your Bachelor's, Master's, Doctorate, MD, or whatever you choose AND still be a really kick ass mom. It is what you do after you obtain both that matters. You can be a shitty mom and stay at home, or you can be a shitty mom and have your PhD. What matters is what happens after you figure out your life and after you have your kiddos.

I, personally, am someone who will one day have a PhD AND will also be a great mother of adorable kids and I will do whatever they need me to do. It is absolutely possible to find a healthy balance for both and do not let anyone tell you differently.

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1. Your family and friends ask what you want for your birthday, so you give them a list of options.

2. You're super excited about your birthday the week before.

3. Your family flies in town to celebrate with you.

4. Your siblings wake you up.

5. Your friends are so excited to be with you on your big day.

6. If you work, your office might throw a party for you.

7. For your actual party, you plan a small get-together with close family and friends ...

8. ... or large celebration with everyone you know.

9. You eat the best meal you've had in weeks.

10. You devour the first piece of cake proudly.

11. You embarrass yourself somehow.

12. You get the present you really wanted but thought no one would get you.

13. You are a little sad about getting older.

14. That feeling wears off and you realize how happy you are to have family and friends to celebrate this day with you.

15. The morning after your birthday looks something like this.

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1. Communicating via email can be awkward.

2. Appointments usually accompany weird looks.

3. Introducing yourself to someone is never without a hitch.

4. You’ve probably thought about changing your name.

5. You’re often asked why you have the name you do.

6. You get excited when you meet someone of your gender with your name.

7. You feel awkward when you meet someone of the opposite gender with your name.

8. You’ve had someone say to you, “I knew a [your name], but they were [your opposite gender].”

9. You’ve heard a bad joke/pick-up line or two about your name before.

10. People are surprised when they see you.

11. You’re extra sensitive to other unique or unisex names.

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13. All things considered, you’re happy your name makes you unique.

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6. holds arm against your arm Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. holds pale arm against another pale arm Aw, at least you're darker than her!

10. adjusts selfie lighting to their face Oops, where'd you go??

11. after working out Your face is SO red!

12. wears white Look! You're all one color!