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Apr 03, 2017

In high school, making friends came with a lot of pressure. For some reason, there were unspoken rules about how to pursue and maintain friendships. Many people disapproved of sliding in DM's, getting someone's number from someone else, or even just blatantly saying that you want to hang out and get to know someone outside of school related activities.

In college, those are all ways I've made some of the best friends ever! It's so funny how in high school there are so many things to worry about when socializing and then come to college and realize all of that doesn't matter as much.

Coming to Biola, I knew absolutely no one. Only one other person in my senior class of 1,000+ was even going to college in California. I barely even knew Biola's academic requirements, opportunities, or anything that made it the great school it is. I was so terrified leading up to move in day that everyone would already know each other and I'd be the only one who didn't know a single soul. While at some moments that's felt true, I've been pushing myself this semester to reach out to the people I want to be friends with. Whether it's sliding into DM's on Instagram or meeting through a mutual friend, it's so much easier and casual to make friends with just about anyone than it ever was in high school.

Being intentional in my new and old relationships that I've made during my first year of college has been so rewarding. I'm now experiencing the deeper friendships that everyone raved about that I desperately wanted growing up, where I can talk about anything and everything and feel safe. If you told me this time last year that I would be able to open myself up about my struggles and worries I would've laughed at you because I'm such a private person. I have friends who pray for me, love on me, keep me accountable, encourage me, laugh with me, study with me, and genuinely like me which is honestly something I only experienced with about five people before coming to Biola.

Making friends by reaching out and reaching out again when they forget to make solid plans is not as scary as it seems and I've been able to meet so many cool people. So shoot your shot- the person you've been having a friend crush on is probably going to be so welcoming!

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Sleepovers are not a thing. They're just not.

1. You only ask things once.

2. Seriously, you only ask once.

3. When you do muster up the courage to ask your parents for something, you creep around and wait until they’re in a good mood.

4. Before you get that final yes, you have to go through an interview.

5. If you ever got “the eye,” you knew you were screwed.

6. You were always the first to leave your group of friends when hanging out.

7. If you say you will be home at a certain time, you better be home at that time.

8. Seeing a missed call from your parents sends fear and horror through your veins.

9. If relatives are coming over to the house, your room better be clean.

10. You are careful about what jokes you share with your parents.

11. "You’re not an adult until you turn 18! You can do whatever you want then!"

12. If plans change while you’re out, you better text or call.

13. Don’t talk back. Ever.

14. When you’re called by your full name, you’re in deep trouble.

15. Don’t make them call your name twice.

16. Sleepovers are not a thing.

17. Despite all of these things, you know your parents love you.

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1. Pets

2. Mornings

3. Mistakes

4. Cooking for yourself

5. Hosting

6. Taking care of yourself

7. Holidays

8. Roommates

9. Keeping focused and getting stuff done

10. Cleaning

11. Social life

No, really. I'm not mad. Just hungry.

1. You’re tired of people asking you if you know what “RBF” stands for every time you zone out.

2. You’re constantly using the excuse, “I’m just tired” when people ask you if you’re mad.

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7. You constantly remind yourself, “At least I’m not a psycho.”

Some of your best ideas come through boredom.

1. If the professor is late by one minute, I'm leaving.

2. Oh crap, that's due TODAY?!

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4. I wonder what they're serving at the cafeteria.

5. How much does my teacher even get paid?

6. How much will I get paid?

7. This is the longest 50 minutes of my life.

8. Maybe if I call mom, she'll give me money.

9. How much do street performers make anyway?

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