Being a teenager, I realize I lack a great amount of understanding of the meaning of friendship. I’ve only just begun to experience the trials and tribulations what it means to be a friend. However, through the many failed and successful friendships I've experienced, I have learned a few things...
I've been lucky enough to have had many close friends. Many I’ve remained close with for years; others, I've had to let go of. Being stuck in an unhealthy friendship is difficult. If a person you call your ‘friend’ is making you miserable through their actions and words, they probably aren’t worth it. If you find yourself talking poorly and thinking poorly about this person, maybe it’s time to let go. Often, it can be difficult to cease a friendship with someone who you have been previously close with. It helps to take a step back and evaluate this person's impact in your life. Taking a friendship 'break' by not being around the person as often or even to stop talking to them for a period of time is normal! This 'break' will help you to realize whether or not you are fine without this friend, and if you really need them in your life.
On the other hand, some friendships are beneficial to both parties. Surrounding yourself with the people who bring you up, make you laugh and act as a support system, is crucial. Speaking as a teen, I know that finding those people can be difficult. Therefore, when you do find them, maintaining a healthy friendship is important!
Keys to a Healthy Friendship
- Understanding: It is crucial to be understanding of what makes a friend of yours upset and happy. If there is something that makes a person uncomfortable or unhappy, don’t do it. Simple.
- Caring: Everyone loves a friend who cares enough to be there for you when you’re down. Even a spontaneous visit or gift can show a friend that you care.
- Expressing: It’s incredibly important to express yourself to your friends. If something is bothering you, bring it up. If something exciting is happening, tell them. Communication is key.
- Maintaining: Just like a flower, a friend needs to be tended to! The occasional visit, phone call, or text, can make all the difference.
Hopefully, my readers can share and understand, as well as gain some helpful hints from this article. From one teen to another, good luck in all of your future friendship endeavors!
