I’ve watched you cry, lose sleep and fall apart. I’ve listened to you tell me all about the things he’s done, and the lies that he’s told. He broke your heart and I was there to pick up the pieces. He doesn’t deserve your time, your kindness or your company. You can’t continue being there for him whenever he’s ready to have you back.

He may have had your heart previously, but he lost that opportunity a while ago. Whether he cheated, lied or simply lost interest, he missed out on something great. He missed out on you. You gave him your heart, and he gave you his for a little while, too. But, after he got what he wanted and decided that he'd had enough, he left your side. After all of this, you have to promise me that you’ll leave him alone.

Then he comes back, asking to see you again, and you tell me all about the good times you two shared. He admits that he’s the one at fault, how he’s realized his wrongdoings and how he promises to change. Don’t believe a word of it. Please. His intentions may be genuine, but you cannot forget the damage he has caused.

Being with him is like a rollercoaster. He’s great one minute, treating you like a princess and making you feel special, but then his roller coaster takes another turn for the worse. The scary drop from the top forces you to realize what once was your heartbreak. Welcome back… I knew it was coming.

You have to do yourself a favor and end this toxic relationship. Don’t allow him to have the upper hand any longer. It’s time for you to realize that he is never going to change his behaviors. His negative presence in your life has made you a mess, and it’s time for you to recognize this.

Being in a relationship isn’t just about the good times–you have to take into account all of the bad times, too. No relationship is perfect, and I know that you understand that. However, healthy relationships are worth working on, and this relationship is far from healthy. For your own health, sanity and wellbeing, you must realize that he is nothing but a destructive part of your life. You deserve someone that treats you like he did during the good times, all the time. Don’t settle for the type of relationship that’s “mostly good” because one day it could turn into “mostly bad.”

I hate to see a strong and independent girl like you lose sight of your potential. You used to be an outgoing and lively person, but he took that from you. The worst part of it is that you let him. It’s time for you to break free of his constraints and show him that you’re better than this. Show him that you deserve more than a late night booty call, or the endless apologies for his wrongdoings. Most importantly, show him that you deserve to be happier without him.