Psalm 118:8 "It is better to put your trust in the Lord than to put your confidence in man."

Well, to the friend that is confused, this one is for you.

I went to the Passion 2017 Conference in Atlanta at the beginning of January and let me tell you; Jesus has a very funny way of teaching us things that we thought we already knew. I went with one of my favorite people on the planet and we both learned and grew so much through that experience together.

One night, while we were on our way home, we talked about the kind of man we pictured ourselves ending up with. The kind of man we were preparing ourselves for. Now, this girl that I was with is such a strong and joyous person that anyone would be lucky to know her. She is jaw-droppingly beautiful and is also one of the funniest people I have ever met. She has the biggest heart which may be her biggest weakness. She loves hard and trusts easily. Her biggest flaw, however, is that she does not know her worth.

Yes, some of us talk about how much of a catch we are, but in reality, we are lonely people. We are "desperate and hopeless for love" as Chandler Bing would put it. We get the slightest bit of affection shown to us and all standards and worth goes out the window. We cling to that attention in hopes that the guy is genuine and will end up being our forever somebody.

I've been there. I dated a guy for the longest time trying my hardest to convince myself that he was the one I would end up with. That he wouldn't use me. That he truly cared about me. That he had changed. I never listened to the echo in my heart that kept saying there was more out there. That there was someone better.

Girl, it's time to give in. It's time to listen to me when I say that you deserve better. Believe me when I say that there is a Godly, bearded, bulky man that loves kids somewhere on this planet that will make you understand why it never worked out with anyone else. That will make you thank your lucky stars that you know him and get the opportunity to love him. God has him picked out and is preparing him for you. It's time to prepare yourself.

You have not changed and come so far to only be sucked back into a lifestyle that you know won't fulfill you. "Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart!" Psalm 37:4

There is too much good in you for you to settle for less than you deserve. You need someone that will encourage your walk with Christ. That will not lie. That will lift you up constantly. That will fill your days with joy and laughter. That will be there for you to lean on when you need them.

Don't settle for someone that makes you sing "Walk Away" by Kelly Clarkson so violently.....

Be yourself. Praise God in everything that you do. Draw nearer to Him and He will give you what you have longed for.

With all the love in the world,

Lil Lumpkin