I have always been more independent and really hard to make a commitment, from relationships to picking out the same shampoo. It's not that my family was not there for me, because they were, but we had different schedules and that made me have a lot of 'me' time. It got annoying to have any one around me consistently with out wanting to go exclude my self from the world, but I wasn't necessarily a loner.
Boyfriends were really just flings once I got to college, I mean everyone is trying to find themselves at this point. From heartbreaks to just wanting to be single, you start to forget about your childhood dreams of marrying someone and living happily ever after, you are more worried about affording life and having fun (school work too, obviously!). Mom is always right of course though, and with out a doubt when she says the love of your life will come walking in to your life at the most random time, usually when you don't see it coming, it's true. Still stings that I have to say she was right once again.
A lot of people will give me weird looks when I say I'm in a committed relationship in college and before I got into the relationship, I would say the same thing to my friends because I am the last person to be emotional with. It's better when you are actually friends first. I never would of thought I would have ended up with him and even when we first began dating, I never thought it would come to this. Until, we both starting growing up and "adulting together", that's when I realized how truly special this is. It made me realize, it is what relationships are about, growing together and not apart. Splitting bills and helping each other out without even the thought of whose money is whose. You realize you make sacrifices for each other.
I never thought I would have found my person this young, but I have looked back and realized I was having childish relationships before, but this, this is real. When you start putting your significant other in front of you/everything, it is a huge hint. Now don't get me wrong, of course it was not always easy, there will always come times where you question your relationship, but if you be patient and know that things take time, that is truly something waiting for.
When you actually look at someone and see your life with them, and plan your life with them, your mind set changes. For me, a huge change, I can't even settle on a major, but when I look at him, I know I am home, even if it took me doubts and months to realize that. It's weird finding someone you can't imagine life without. He is the best friend I tell all the drama too, the person I annoy by sticking my feet in their face, and the person that I can actually be my whole self with, which trust me is psycho and weird. I could look at him and tell him "I am tired of you and don't want to deal with you", as harsh as it is for someone to say that to you, he would ignore it and know that I am stressed or upset and knows that I am just saying things to avoid my emotions. He knows I don't mean it and is patient with me and that's the type of person everyone needs. He always makes me mad, but when you can laugh it off, it makes things a lot less stressful. Find a person who you can admit you're wrong too with out even having to say it, a person you can talk to with out making it a screaming debate, a person who if you went traveling with out you wouldn't feel the same because they aren't by your side. I fount that person.