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Forgive Them

"If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive." -Mother Theresa

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Forgive Them
Demeter Attila

Forgiveness. Forgiveness is the hardest thing we have to do. Many times, we are faced with the choice of forgiving someone who wasn't sorry or harboring the ugly emotions that this pain has caused us.

Forgive them. Forgive whoever hurt you, regardless of intent. Try to be understanding of their circumstances, their motives, or whatever could have caused them to hurt you the way that they did. Give them the benefit of the doubt, even if they don't deserve it. Forgiving is different than forgetting, and forgiveness does not mean that the past will be ignored. You ultimately have the choice for the future, and you deserve to consider what you really want.

It takes time to forgive. Sometimes it takes days or weeks, and sometimes months or years. Forgiveness is hard. No one is denying that. You need to give yourself that time. Don't allow this situation to consume you and take away your power. You are in control of your future. You have the capability to say yes or no. Don't shy away from those feelings, no matter how much they hurt. In order to heal, you must face your fears. You cannot move forward without considering your thoughts and feelings on the situation.

You don't owe them forgiveness. You never owe anyone forgiveness when they have done you wrong. But, you deserve to be freed through the forgiveness. You deserve to move forward from the hurt. You deserve what is best for you.

Maybe that means you will reconnect and move forward together.

Maybe that means you will fray apart.

The power is in your hands. Do this for you.


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