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Forgive, But Don't Forget

Not everyone deserves a second chance.

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Forgive, But Don't Forget
Elizabeth Chan

Forgive, but never, ever forget. This may sound like common sense. In fact, many of the videos I watch or articles I read discussing inner beauty, including topics related to confidence, friendships, relationships, etc. are common knowledge. I read The Happiness Advantage a few weeks ago, and the tips that the author listed weren't new to me. The weird thing is, and maybe psychologists have proof of it, but hearing someone actually give you advice or reading about it is the biggest motivator, at least for me.

Forgiveness has always been extremely difficult for me. Some of my friends can easily let go of issues, but I, on the other hand, have always held grudges. No matter what, my passive aggressive nature will pop out around someone who I had an argument with me. In the past few years, I've learned how to be more forgiving. I learned that, if I have made so many mistakes and my friends have still stuck by me, others deserve that chance to. It's one of those seemingly obvious 'everybody makes mistakes' quotes that we always hear but tend to forget.

So, over time, I have learned how to forgive and just move on. But more importantly, I've learned one thing to never do: forget whatever went wrong. Just because you forgive someone for doing you wrong, it doesn't mean they deserve a second or third or any more chances that they think they deserve. Hold your ground. You have the right to make the choice of being their friend or not.


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