Forgiveness is a part of life, and with this topic in mind, the saying, "the most important things to say are often the hardest things to say," is very true.

What is forgiveness to you? To me, it is passing over things that have happened in the past and moving forward. It is trying to smile at someone who once betrayed you or looking to the brighter side after an unjust situation.

I recently went to a retreat with my youth group on campus, and we had to come up with three things we want to accomplish during the Advent season. For me, I came up with peace, forgiveness, and patience. I feel as though these three things work together. Sometimes, in order to give or receive forgiveness, we must first have patience. As someone who is always trying to maximize her time and keep everything in balance, patience can be challenging for me. When we finally reach the state of forgiving or giving forgiveness, we must have peace. Be at peace with yourself and the situation.

But what if the other person or party is not communicating with your forgiveness? What if you can't forgive them right away? In this case, I believe it is easiest to tell yourself that you did all that you could. Maybe they cannot forgive you, even though you tried to make peace. Remaining humble, happy, and patient despite the other's adverse actions is key here.

I am no expert, but I do think that I have learned something about forgiveness over my short 20 years of life.