Here it is, 2 to 3 weeks within the school year and I have found myself locked inside this system. Locked in and held captive of the common social relationships presented at Wesleyan. “Have you hooked up with anyone yet?” my current peers continuously asked one another. My answer would surely put me to shame. “No!” I thought to myself. It seems as if everyone had prior knowledge to this hooking up/relationship system with the exception of me.

“Are there any fine boys out there?” my friend from Houston asked. “Girl yes and they smart.” I bragged. Had I known that within a few days, these boys would bring unintentional and unnecessary exhaustion to my college experience, I would have minimized my excitement and braced myself for my lonesome. With the assistance of upperclassmen females, I was aware of those who were not a good look on my behalf (which was mainly everyone I found appealing and dateable.) Okay let me be honest, I am the common cliché when it comes to picking a boyfriend. I usually aim for those who are bound to have a not so good reputation, such as athletes and the boy who most likely made it as Homecoming King in high school. I expected this routine to be broken once I started college, but I cannot help how I feel and who I am initially feeling.

In some sense, I cannot blame the other prisoners because of my imprisonment, but I can point fingers when it comes to those who have gave in to this system. We have not been here a month and people are expecting entirely too much. People would consider me to be expecting too much by me expecting to want to build, grow, and gain a relationship instead of a sexuation (sex situation). Yes, I do feel like college is the place to definitely engage in a multitude of activities, I do not feel as if that activity has to be sexual. Just in case I have not made it clear exactly what this system consists of I will break it down right here, right now. 1. Find a person you are attracted to. (sometimes you do not even have to find them attractive.) 2. Get their number or find a way to get in contact for the last rule or procedure. 3. Have sexual relations (whether no feelings are involved or it is) Yeah I know, this may seem cool to you, but for those who are not okay, you will feel so alone.

The level of maturity expected in college has failed me. I totally understand the concept of “college is so fun and is all about having fun.” Sure, this is true well partially, but college is not all about hooking up with different people. Do not get me wrong I have no problem with those who engage in this type of activity, I just wont and do not see myself doing so.

Yeah, so here I am in my room, writing an article on how lonely I am lol. But, no seriously, I think it is fair for me to say there is a number of females who share the same beliefs and interests with me. Although, the amount may be limited or few, I feel like these females should not feel alone. I will escape this eccentric system when I find someone who is not just trying to add me to their number of sex partners, or just trying to get a quickie. No, I am not abstinent and no I am not a virgin. I just feel like there is a door of respect here at Wesleyan that no one is willing to open because they are locked in their prison cell. There is no reason why people like me, romanticists should feel closed in. There is absolutely no reason as to why there are few to none individuals willing to step out of their cell and pursue this practice or one that connects to them. This article was not only targeted to females who can relate, but males who participate consistently with this system. Dude, there is always a way to beat the expected of you. DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT!!!!!! BE YOURSELF!!!! ( NOT WHO YOU ARE FORCED TO BE)