I’ve heard through the grapevine that some of the best relationships start off rocky. Some of the best relationships begin with you questioning it at a very early point. Some of the best relationships take a lot of time to get used to at first, especially if you’re not used to being treated right. The best relationships are the ones that have somehow healed you. But you can’t continue living life constantly terrified of your scars breaking open again.
At first, when I heard this quote, I thought it was just a sappy Tumblr quote, but it's actually true. One of my high school teachers used to tell us that it was her favorite and I remember it to this day:
“You can’t just give up on someone because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.” – Unknown
The best relationships have arguments. To a certain extent, when you fight with them, you’re essentially fighting for them because you care. Despite the imperfections of the disagreements, you shouldn’t give up. A healthy relationship is not simply disposable.
Do you ever find yourself questioning if this is worth it – if this is worth the pain? Don’t. Never question your relationship. Live for the moment. Try to work things out day-by-day and don’t give up. No relationship is perfect, or nearly close to that. Every single relationship has its highs and lows and the only thing that should matter is how you feel. It’s going to take time for both parties to realize this, but you will eventually.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But there is, however, a relationship that has persevered despite all of the obstacles and the odds that it has encountered.
And to my own relationship: No matter how much time goes by, and no matter how much we bicker, I’ll never forget what I felt like when I first met you and you looked at me. You smiled and I got butterflies. I just don’t understand it, but you fascinate me. Without even realizing, without it being the slightest bit intentional, or planned, despite how we found each other, you’ve become all I really want.
You never know what could happen, if you just give up on a struggling relationship. You could be together forever one day, if you want it badly enough. You just have to believe. You have to think of this as a temporary, sticky situation. You will come out of it on the other end stronger.
And once the day finally comes where your hard work has paid off, you’ll see that all of this was so incredibly worth it. All of the struggles, all of the tears, and all of the anxiety – it will all seem just like stepping stones, bringing you to this one blissful moment. Because there isn’t one person in the world that I want more than you.
