Most girls grow up dreaming of their Prince Charming. Our fathers taught us that men are supposed to take care of us while our mothers whispered that we should first learn to take care of ourselves. Which of the two were right? It depends on who you ask. Ask the happy and complete family, who have only ever seen a man that respects and loves his wife and children, they would agree that men play a major role in the pursuit of a happy and successful life.

Daddy's little girls would agree that without their father they wouldn't be who they are, they would explain that their father protects them and makes them feel loved. Ask the broken family. The one where a single mother was forced to raise her children alone because their father wasn't ready to grow up. Ask those little girls, the ones who have seen first hand the pain their mother has endured, the ones who lack a strong male figure in their life, the ones who have never depended on a man much less dreamed of one swooping in to save the day.

This is for the girls with superheroes as mothers, the girls who saved themselves at the end of the day, the girls who are broken and angry, the girls who will never sit back and let a man do the work. It's hard to be in a relationship, especially when your mom made sure you grew up believing that your worth is not and will never be dependent on a man. It's hard because some men are intimidated by independent women. Men often want their partner to be useless so that they themselves feel worthy. Finding a partner that accepts the fact that you can things on your own, and still stand back and supports you, that will take time. Not every man is confident enough to let a woman stand her ground. Not every woman is proud enough to stand up for herself and use what her momma showed her.

So this is me, a girl with who is sure, asking you, a girl with self-doubt, to think twice before letting a man "take care of things". Because when he decides you're "too worthless" who will be to blame?