So you have been trying to figure out the inner workings of your brain. You want an explanation for why you feel the way you feel. Your questions led you to the Internet, and you took the Meyers-Briggs personality test. Or maybe all your friends are currently obsessed with their personality type and you didn't want to feel left out. Either way, you took the test and your results were four beautiful letters: E, N, F, and J.
What does this mean? And why should you be excited about it? Broken down into four parts, E stands for Extrovert, N for Intuitive, F for Feeling, and J for Judging. These just highlight the characteristics you identified most with during the test. For the recently identified, here is a deeper look into four of my favorite characteristics we ENFJ's are attributed:
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1. "They radiate authenticity, concern and altruism, unafraid to stand up and speak when they feel something needs to be said."
ENFJ's adore people. We literally gain energy from positive interactions with people. Interactions, specifically, that lift others up. Labeled "The Protagonist" we are natural advocates for others. We are also known for our devotion and selfless nature.
2. "They have a tremendous capacity for reflecting on and analyzing their own feelings."
This explains the darker and more personal side of ENFJ's. We tend to get lost inside ourselves so deeply that we can become downcast. We are constantly dwelling on our thoughts and feelings. ENFJ's can often create problems that aren't a reality, simply from overthinking.
3. "ENFJ's want to be the best friends possible, and it shows in how they work to find out not just the superficial interests of their friends, but their strengths, passions, hopes and dreams."
ENFJ's want to know you. Really know you. Tell us your goals, your fears, your embarrassing moments, or your secret aspirations. We don't enjoy superficial relationships. We strive to be solid friends and bring out the best in the people around us.
4. "ENFJ's invest their emotions wholly in their relationships, and are sometimes so eager to please that it actually undermines the relationship."
When we're in, we're all in. We can be intimidating in relationships. ENFJ's feel so deeply that it we can smother our loved ones. We need people to be patient with us, because we struggle with toning ourselves down. We are easily excitable and full of affection we are eager to give.
I hope this glimpse into what it's like to be an ENFJ has peaked your interest in yourself. You will quickly find out little things about yourself that will explain the big things. What makes you tick, what makes you feel alone, happy, or frustrated, all come back to how your mind operates. I, personally, am proud to be an ENFJ and am still exploring my mind. I hope you take it upon yourself to wander around and use this newfound knowledge for the good of yourself and for others.
