One of the world's most complex yet beautiful art forms. I've always wondered what makes a person "good at flirting" and just how to figure out if there was ever the off chance I too could one day be considered a quality flirter.
Flirting can be defined as talking to a member of the opposite sex with a certain inflection, body language or motive behind it. I'm not just talking to you as a friend, I'm flirting with you; whether it's a twist of the hair, a battering of the eyelashes, leaning a shoulder in or just making an effort of actually pretending to be listening for once. Flirting is complex at it's core, were are so many components involved that it can be easy to feel overwhelmed. However, have no fear! The easiest ways to perfect your flirting capabilities are as follows:
1. Beautify your voice.
Maybe instead of hooting' or hollerin' or screaming', use a lighter, fluffier tone. Or as my grandmother refers to it "your telephone voice." It's a way of saying "wow look at me, I'm so feminine and dainty and cute and dateable" all through your vocal cords. Think Betty Boop or Marilyn Monroe. You're so high pitched and airy you're on the very brink of sounding like a cartoon character. Guys love that.
2. Laugh non stop.
Almost to the point of crazy person, but toned down like two notches. Laughing is key, you get to show off your pearly whites, your face lights up and it shows you have a stellar personality. But make sure once again, we're going for a cutesy laugh. No knee slapping, just a little giggle here a little chuckle there. If you know you have an awkward laugh, maybe just skip this one. If you are humor-ically challenged just wink at them a lot, that should do the trick. My fav move is the "hook and drag". Wink and turn your head, it leaves em hanging and wanting more. Get it girl.
3. Body. Language.
There is always always always a way to read people without fail and that is through body language. If a guy is facing away from you, leaning his shoulders back and just plain avoiding looking at you, odds are, he's not about it. Your body language is crucial, it not only makes you look good but a subtle arm grab, hair flip or shrug of the shoulder can really make em fall for ya. Elle Woods' bend and snap is always a good one, and the more people around, the better. They'll think 'Wow! What a crowd stopper! I should really wife that up before anyone else in this crowd does first!" Got em. ;)
There is definitely an unspoken boundary surrounding the world of flirting. Subtlety is so essential; flirting is not being desperate and crazy. Have fun, use that telephone voice, flip that hair till you give yourself a concussion, and laugh at least every 10 seconds. Talking about the weather has never been so humorous.
