I'm the first one to say, "what's the move?" I always want to know what's happening, who's going, and what are we wearing.

I'm also the first one to drop out of the plans.

Yes, I am the flaky friend.

I'm usually indecisive, but when I say "hey, we should do something" and I don't get a response within an hour, I'm getting back into bed and not going anywhere.

It's not intentional. I'm either really into it or desperately waiting for plans to be canceled.

I'll complain when I've made plans and people cancel, but I'll secretly cheer when others make plans but something happens last minute.

I've found myself quietly begging for something to come up, like money issues, or bad weather to stumble in and ruin my plans. I'd rather an inconvenience than having to tell people, "I haven't gotten out of bed yet and I don't plan on it."

It's disheartening, though, when I've finally committed to going out, I've got myself all dolled up, and someone says they can't make it. It feels like they took my friendship and crumbled it up.

But I do the same thing to them.

This is how I see it: I tell my friends we should go out one night. I realize I work that night, but if I'm not too tired and get out early, I'll be down to go.

Well, that night shows up, I'm tired from work, but my friends still want to go out. So I go home, sit on my bed, and contemplate leaving.

Of course, my mind is already made up and I give in to my tiredness and achy feet and cancel my plans.

I don't do it to hurt their feelings. I just know that I'm better off staying home and getting to bed than going out and complaining about how tired I am, which I can do from the comfort of my own bed,

But don't leave me out of making plans! That makes me feel like you don't care. Include me, but understand there's a fat chance I probably won't go.

I like to be included but I also like staying home and laying in bed all day.

Sorry to everyone that has ever made plans with me and seen them fall through.