To the fixer,
You can’t fix everyone, or anyone for that matter because people aren’t broken. But you can’t make everything better. But I’m sure that you know that. You’ve had your heart broken one to many times to know that you can’t fix everyone. But don’t stop trying. Don’t give up. Fixing things is what makes you the person that you are.
You love everyone immensely. You love everyone with your whole heart. You listen not only with your ears but with every single part of your body. You’ll push people to talk to you without pushing their limits. You’ll give everyone the best advice you can. 9 times out of 10 you’ll help someone and they’ll thank you for it. But the one person you can’t save will break you heart. You’ll constantly be thinking about this person and what you can do to help. But let me remind you don’t jeopardize who you are to put someone else back together. Don’t lose your love for helping people. Don’t question all the things you’ve done for others in the past. You fix people, that’s what makes you, you. That’s what your best friend loves you about. That’s what your brother loves about you.
You care so much for others- and that’s not a bad thing, and you should never stop doing that. It’s what makes people light up when you walk into a room. Helping people is what makes you feel good. But you can’t save everyone, there’s going to be one person who needs to save themselves. Don’t fret, they’ll get back on their feet even without your help. All you can do is be there for them incase they need you, but other than that you give them space. Let them figure things out on their own. If they decided after they’ve rediscovered who they are that they want you around they’ll let you know. If not, that’s okay too, that just means they lost a very good person.
Most importantly, don’t spend time just caring for others. Care for yourself too. Be happy on your own. Value yourself and your talents. Pick yourself up. Be the person who can be helpful. If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of anyone else. And if you can’t take care of everyone don’t let that bring you down. You’re defined more by all the people you’ve helped then the one who didn’t want you help.
Sincerely,
A girl who loves everyone too much
