Your career as a super hero is off to a great start. You have the powers, the training, and a secret identity as air-tight as your spandex suit. All you need now is an arch nemesis! Many rookie heroes make the mistake of rushing into this important relationship, declaring their eternal hatred for the first petty criminal they chase down a back alley. But if you want to succeed as a super hero, you'll need to be a little pickier.

Batman and the Joker. Harry Potter and Voldemort. Austin Powers and Dr. Evil. These famous hero-villain pairs all have one thing in common: commitment. A true arch nemesis is someone with the passion and dedication to keep your rivalry alive through years of rooftop battles and attempted murders. Here are five signs that your mortal enemy is the real deal:

• He’s a worthy opponent. Remember that half-rate crime lord you battled last week, the one who left you in an easily-escapable death trap while he rambled about his evil plan? Please. You’re better than that. An arch nemesis with the power, skill and cunning to match yours will challenge you, pushing you to grow as a super hero.
  
  
• You complement each other. A famous villain once said, “We’re not so different, you and I.” Well, okay, a lot of villains have said that. The point is, your arch nemesis should be your mirror image, both equal and opposite. Ideally, the two of you share similar powers, backstories, and even personalities, but have made very different choices. But if you find that you’re too alike, be on your guard – you may be at risk of defecting to the dark side.
  
  
• He gets a little possessive. A real arch nemesis will make it clear that his relationship with you is exclusive. He’ll order his minions to bring you to him alive, so he can finish the job himself. He might occasionally swoop in to save you from the clutches of other villains, shouting, “I’m the only one allowed to defeat you!” This jealousy can be off-putting, but don't worry: it’s just his way of showing that he cares.
  
• She keeps the fight personal. When you’re battling over the fate of your city, the human race, or even the world, it’s easy to get caught up in the big picture. That’s why a good arch nemesis always takes the time to antagonize you directly by burning down your house, kidnapping your girlfriend, and egging your car. These personal touches are what keep the spark of enmity burning in your relationship.
  
  
• He respects you. A healthy arch enemy relationship is founded on mutual respect: even when you’re trying to kill each other, you can appreciate each other’s virtues. Your nemesis will harbor a grudging admiration for your dedication to justice, your fighting prowess, and the way your cape flows in the wind. Just don't expect him to ever admit it.

In a world full of great super heroes and their arch rivals, a rookie hero can feel strong pressure to find a nemesis of her own. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with flying solo for a while. It’s worth waiting for the right arch nemesis – a villain who personally despises you just the way you deserve.