Is a first kiss really that important? The answer is, it depends. It varies from person to person if they value their first kiss. I, however, feel that putting so much value onto the first kiss has been done by society. In movies, books, and in our culture in general, the first kiss is idealized to be something sacred that should be saved. Recently, I realized that all of the ideas I had about first kisses were not my own, but they were the ideas placed in my head by the world around me. I had never really thought about the subject and formed my own opinion. All I have seen or heard is that the first kiss is special and should be with someone you care about.

Now I've begun to question this.

Why does it even matter at all?

For most people, the first kiss they have is probably not with the person they are going to end up with. They will have many opportunities after and good (as well as bad) experiences. If we repeat the action over and over, perhaps with other people, why is the first time held to such high value? It is not like sex in that it is not extremely vulnerable and intimate, requiring a careful and loving first time. We want the first kiss to be nice and important for seemingly no reason other than the fact that it is the first one.

Moreover, because of this standard, people tend to get upset if their first kiss does not go so well. They build it up in their heads to be some kind of magical moment and are disappointed when it is not what they have expected. Perhaps we would be better off if we felt less pressure to have a good first.

Everyone can have their own idea about what kind of first kiss they want to have, but make sure that it is actually your own opinion.