How do you know when he is the one, and not some temporary fling? At some point in life, we all feel like Ted Mosby from HIMYM, thinking that every guy we bump into is the one we are destined to marry. Sadly, life isn't a television show. To every girl that feels like she's never going to find Mr.Right, or going through a terrible breakup and feel like all love is lost... I'm here to tell you that patience will bring Prince Charming to your door. Before finding the guy I know is the one I gave up on every guy I talked to because they all had one motive (we all know what that is), and I was honestly so tired of being used, but HE was different. In my opinion he's perfect for you if he:
1. Puts you before himself
He'll always make you feel like you are a priority, and that you are one of the most important things in his life. He did so much to get you into his life, but he has to continue to keep you in his life. When the boys want him to go out but you've had plans for weeks to go to dinner, he would make the decision that would make you happy...even if it meant sacrificing his own fun for one night.
2. Protects you from harm
Even if it meant putting himself in danger, he would protect you both physically and emotionally at all costs. This could mean defending you from someone or something you were incapable of defending yourself. But more importantly he protects you from yourself, and the pain you inflict upon yourself on a daily basis. By this I mean the constant put downs, the picking-apart, and the self-hate that us girls love to use to make ourselves feel bad. I don't know how many times he's stood at the mirror with me wiping the tears from my eyes, and told me that every little flaw I saw was only a figment of my imagination. I'm not telling you that you need a man to make you feel confident, because true confidence comes from within, but it doesn't hurt to have a little help along the way right?
3. Enjoys what you enjoy
Okay well he is not going to absolutely LOVE everything that you enjoy, but he will try his best to be interested no matter how girly or unnecessary it make look in his eyes. Ladies this also means that you should return the favor by showing genuine interest in the things he enjoys, it's only fair!
4. Communicates with you
If I can stress one thing enough its COMMUNICATION!! If he can't communicate with you on simple issues thats a huge warning that you aren't going to work out. What is going to happen when larger issues come about if he can't talk through small disputes? If he can communicate then that's a sure sign that he is a keeper.
5. Has a good relationship with God
In my opinion he has to live a godly lifestyle, and include God in his life everyday. He will also make sure that you live a wholesome lifestyle as he does, and will always be a positive influence on you. In Genesis 2:18 God stated that "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” So if God created you both to be together then the least you could do is pay him respect by following his rules and morals together as a couple.
In addition to the above standards I've listed make sure the man you decide on treats you with the utmost respect, pushes you to achieve your dreams and goals, treats others with kindness, has his own goals and dreams, and enjoys your company no matter what you're doing. There are SO MANY other ways to tell that he is the one, but I'll let you decide those for yourself, because we all look for different things in a partner. I wish you luck finding your very on Prince Charming, but don't lose faith, because he's closer than you think.
