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Find Yourself A Man, Not A Boy

"Find yourself a boy who.." Blah. Blah. Blah.

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"A boy spends his time finding a girl to sleep with. A man spends his time trying to find one to wake up to."

One of my biggest pet peeves is when young women say "find yourself a boy who..." And then finishes the sentence with something cute or nice that their boyfriend does for them. Sure it's nice that you appreciate what he does for you, but I believe that once a male reaches a certain age or maturity that they are no longer a boy.

I have seen it a thousand times, one girl in particular posts things like this very often on social medias like Twitter and Instagram. "Find yourself a boy who takes you on road trips for no reason," "find yourself a boy who takes pictures of you making animal friends," "find yourself a boy who will-" Blah. Blah. Blah. I, personally, don't want to "find myself a boy," I want to find myself a man. Also, the "boy" that she's talking about isn't a boy, in my opinion he is a man.

My parents raised me to find a man. Someone who can take care of me, who takes responsibility for his actions, who will love me and make me feel like the queen that I am, who will be ambitious, and who will not run away from his problems or get scared when things get rough.

So, girls, if you want to waste your time with someone who is going to hurt you or play with your emotions, someone who is going to use you to get what he wants from you and pretend like he loves you as much as you love him, then you can find yourself a boy. I, however, want something real. Something worth my time. Something that won't make me feel used. I want to find a man, not a boy.

For me this goes hand in hand with when girls say that their "boy" makes them feel like a "princess." Well, I don't need to find myself a boy to make me feel like a princess because my dad already does that. I say find yourself a man to treat you like the queen that you are, that your father raised you to be.

These are just two things that really grind my gears. Young women wonder why they get treated poorly by the guy that they love but, in my opinion, it's because they go after boys instead of men. Real men won't use you, make you feel less than you are, or pretend to reciprocate the feelings that you have for him. Real men aren't afraid to fall in love.

So when you meet a nice guy and you think he might be the one, ask yourself "Is he a boy or a man?" If he's a man, go for it. Don't waste your time with someone who still thinks and acts like a child 24/7. Be with a guy who acts like a man, not a boy. And stop calling him "your boy" and call him "your man."

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