Sometimes being obsessed is a good thing.
I’m nearly 6 months in to a new relationship and I couldn’t be happier. It has already allowed me to learn from the past, and envision the future. When I say learn from the past, I’m talking specifically about my two previous relationships. When I dated my exes I convinced myself that not wanting to be with my boyfriend all the time was normal. I liked my independence and didn’t feel the need to see them every weekend or even a couple times after school. I was pretty distant. Don’t get me wrong, I still liked them a lot and wanted to be their girlfriend, but I viewed relationships much differently than I do now. After enduring a break-up when I was 18, I lived the single life for about 2 ½ years. I’m going to be honest with you, I had mixed emotions during that time. But if I’m being honest with myself, I mostly hated it. I was sad, lonely and called my mom for a pep-talk all too often. Just as I started to lose hope (as all single women do more times then we’d like to admit), I met my guy. And in this current relationship with my wonderful boyfriend, I want to be with him C O N S T A N T L Y. I’m talking stage 4 clinger over here people! It is like night and day between these relationships. I can’t get enough of him. So what has this taught me? What is the whole point of this article? I learned the importance of patience, people and pep-talks. Those 3 P’s combined carried me through those 2 ½ years of singlehood and landed me smack dab into my new beau’s arms. Not literally, of course but you get the point. If I didn’t get them all wrapped up into one package, life would be different for me today. You can be patient one day, get a pep-talk next week and hang with some cool people a month later, but when you have people surrounding you who you love, giving you a pep-talk and reminding you to stay grounded and be patient- magic happens.
Patience is something I’m still trying to get a good grip of. It’s hard to be patient when it comes to something you want very badly. But when you are patient, God delivers. Everyone needs a pep-talk every now and then, especially when you’re feeling like you’re in a rut. If you’re lucky like me, you’ll have some pretty kick-ass people with shovels who will dig you right out.
When you feel like giving up, don’t. I promise these frustrating times don’t last forever. Take it from me- the girl who was starting to lose faith in love because she was left behind and hurt so often. Your special someone who allows everything to make sense again is out there. A lot happened to me in those 2 ½ years and what I’ve learned in these past 6 months is that you should be obsessed with the person you’re dating. So if you’re not, don’t settle just because you hate being single. You’ll see that when the right person finds you, it’s worth the wait.
