Dear fellow Millennials,
We get a lot of crap for the way we are living. We seem to be doing just about everything either wrong or not at all in the eyes or older generations. I admit, there are a few things we could tweek. It's known that more of us are staying at home longer, skipping college. We've been called the worst to work with and the "Me Me Me Generation." And we're supposed to be the rude ones? We also get to be the ones that deal with the brunt of who wins the presidency, we are the ones whose futures are most at risk, and who's fault is that? But this isn't a political post.
One thing I see us getting the most criticism for is how we date. I, for one, admit that we don't get to know or start dating in the best ways. We use Tinder and Plenty of Fish. We add people we don't know on Facebook and start messaging. Rarely do we pay attention to the people around us. What happened to meeting someone at a park and starting conversation or not being creepy at the bar? I've concocted a list of things we can do to not get such hate, and to probably better the relationships we jump into.
1. Don't rely too much on social media.
Most of us meet people online, and while it is very convenient, how much of it is true? We post selfies where we control how we seem and communicate and can so easily change who we are. Try to meet as soon as you're comfortable with it. The longer you wait, the more you'll see the picture they are painting instead of the actual thing.
2. Listen to your mother.
I may not want to admit this, but if you talk to your moms about who you're talking to or spending time with, and she smells something fishy, listen to her wise words. She's dated and lived, she can most likely help.
3. Have them take you out into public.
Do you find yourself always staying in? Not really being seen in public with each other? Go do something public. Visit a zoo or walk a parkway. Do you get the same affection in public that you get at the house?
4. Meet each other's parents.
If you don't like how they treat their parents, chances are you won't like how they treat you further down the road. If they treat the people that raised them badly, how do you expect to be treated any better?
5. Don't jump into dating.
Yes, everyone seems to be jumping into the dating game very quickly, and they also end up falling apart almost just as quickly. Make sure you know who it is that you're talking to or dating.
Perhaps if we took the time to make sure the people we go for are worth it, and taking dating seriously, we wouldn't have such a bad rep.
