Growing up, a lot of children are taught that their family should hold the utmost importance. But as you grow up, you start to realize that some family members can be evil, mean, and downright disrespectful.
It's hard when to decide it is the right time to choose your own fate in the sense of staying close to family members or leaving them behind to better yourself. It's an extremely difficult decision to make. Your whole life, you were told that you need to love and protect this person, but at the end of the day, do they love or protect you?
At the end of the day, do these family members really have your best interest at heart or do they only want to do some of the following: use you to pass the time, talk about your mistakes, decrease the value of your accomplishments, or take advantage of things you care most about?
If you thought of someone in particular for either of those activities, it's time to let them go. Just because you're related does not mean that you have to try to build a close relationship with them. Even if it's for a little while, you deserve to let yourself take a break from a toxic relationship that you couldn't help but be born into.
A break doesn't mean that you two won't work out your differences or one day pursue a closer relationship to one another. But you deserve to give yourself the space that you so desperately crave.
Not all of your family members have your best interest at heart, and the sooner you learn it, the better.
Now, don't get crazy and start a whole family feud or war between the two of you. Just work toward better situations and better conversations for the future. Let them back in your circle of trust once you feel ready for them and not a moment sooner.
Every family has people who had to grow up at different speeds than their relatives. So, don't expect them to be able to meet you at an understanding right away as everyone will react to this situation differently.
Take the space away from your family if you truly feel that it'll better you as a person and help you toward becoming a more put-together human being. If you feel the toxicity of the family is bringing you down, then make the change you need to so you can be happy again.
