We did not choose our family for ourselves, and yet, by grand design, those are the people we are related to in more aspects than one- the people we are known by- the name we carry.

This can be a blessing and a curse, and as I grow older, I see how it can be both. Here are 6reasons and stories from both perspectives:

Family is always there- always present

Personally, through the good, bad and ugly, my family has always had a consistent presence in my life, and for that, I thank God. Though, I suppose, I would not want anyone else as my family, we've had our rough patches; we've gone through mountains and valleys just as the next family has.

Always expect the unexpected, impactful blow

It's bizarre when something horrible happens. Numerous divorces and the nightmarish ex-step-father, for instance. The headache and heartache that make their imprint. And then, there are successes that make it all worth it. Masters degrees and Ranger school graduation. Even if it does not happen to me directly, the impact goes straight to the heart.

This is where family is messy.

Family is dynamic

Evil has crept in more than once, to say the least, and in some of the most shocking of ways. Repeated history of worst-nightmare-scenarios, amazing achievements, family togetherness and reunions that I did not think would ever happen. Figuring out the impact and the effects of the impact can be exhausting.

"It's hereditary..."

I don't want the weaknesses of the people who walked out on our family. I don't want to be scared of uncertainties. But I want the power, courage and clarity of my brother. I want the dignity and serenity of my mother. The funny and personable personality of my father is my desire. And I aspire for my faith and character to only increase as the unpredictable happens.

Family is your first love

And so, to my family, you are my blessing and my curse. The people I could never live without but that have hurt, impacted, embraced and loved me substantially.

You've changed my life.

Family can shape your very self

My family has opened my eyes, instilled faith, instilled clarity and moved me throughconfusion. And no matter the effects of the impact, they have loved me and upheld me amidst our biggest messes and mistakes as well as the greatest successes and most proud moments.

For this, family,I thank you.