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When You're With Your Forever Person, You Need To Accept That You're Going To Fall In and Out of Love

Love, simply, isn't easy.

Madison Zegarlowicz

May 17, 2019

University of Michigan

When You're With Your Forever Person, You Need To Accept That You're Going To Fall In and Out of Love

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Whether you are with someone for six months or six years, no matter the time you are together, love is hard. It will test your patience, make you happy, drive you insane, and everything in between.

Sorry to spoil it for you, but love is not all the Hallmark movies tell it to be.

The harsh reality of it is that love is a battle. I get it, you hear all the time that a healthy relationship doesn't leave you second-guessing and wondering where you stand. That's almost true: A healthy relationship, in fact, does involve a lot of second-guessing, only to come back and realize that, yeah, you are definitely meant to be together.

It took that introspection, no matter how daunting it is at the time, to realize that you can push through everything and try to be better together.

You will have so many instances, no matter the relationship length, where you will wonder if this is truly right for you. You will wonder if there is better out there and wonder if this is the one for you, the right person, your future spouse. You might have moments, mid-conflict, where you think you have fallen out of love, only to feel an outpouring of it the next day when the dust has settled.

That is normal. Trust me.

Relationships aren't perfect. they involve deep talks that turn into conflict just as much as they involve deep talks that turn into declaring unending love. They involve petty, easily solvable disagreement just as much as they involve horrendous ones. They involve happiness and understanding, but they involve discontent and insecurity, too.

The point of all of this is simple: Understand that love is not simple.

Even if your significant other is The One, I'm sorry, but nothing will never, under any circumstances, be perfect.

It requires a commitment to sticking with it, staying together even through the harshest of storms, only to come out together in the end.

There is no simple equation for a happy relationship. Realizing that conflict will arise and dealing with it maturely when it does has everything to do with a healthy relationship.

There will be days when you don't want to be together, but never forget why you fell in love in the first place.

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When You're With Your Forever Person, You Need To Accept That You're Going To Fall In and Out of Love

Love, simply, isn't easy.

Sorry to spoil it for you, but love is not all the Hallmark movies tell it to be.

Even if your significant other is The One, I'm sorry, but nothing will never, under any circumstances, be perfect.

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No one best represents the struggle like our favorite 90s squad.

1. When course schedules are released and you have a conflict between two required classes.

2. When there is only one section of a popular course.

3. Receiving the 18,000 emails reminding you to register ASAP.

4. When you need to see an advisor, but they are too busy/unresponsive.

5. Trying not to dress like a bum for your appointments with your advisors/department heads.

6. When you have a perfectly planned out schedule, and one class ruins it.

7. Carefully moving things around to accommodate a different class/section.

8. Waking up at 6:00 a.m. for your enrollment time.

9. Concocting a new schedule at your enrollment time after your original plan gets changed.

10. Getting into a class and filling the last available seat.

11. When all of your classes finally go through.

12. Realizing that you forgot a class that was a pre-requisite for everything else.

When your capability of "adulting" is put to the test

Nobody deserves to be living in poverty.

"Nobody living in one of the most influential nations in the world should be worried about making ends meet."

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What are the benefits of raising the minimum wage?

What are the states that have set a $15/hour minimum wage?

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Because who understands your bitterness better than April?

1. When you have to provide an "interesting fact" for your first day ice-breaker.

2. When your professor is babbling on and on in his lecture.

3. When you edit your friend's paper and they get an A.

4. When it's 2 AM and you remember you have a test tomorrow.

5. When you finish taking the test and you're pretty sure you failed...

6. ...but then you get the test back and somehow passed.

7. When you've been up for 12 hours straight writing a paper.

8. And then you manage to stay awake in class the next day.

9. When you have to butter up your professor for an extra credit opportunity.

10. When you're assigned a group project.

11. And your group-mates are trying to chat about life instead of the assignment.

12. When it's your last class of the day and you're about to go home.

13. But then you remember rent is due tonight and the anger comes back.

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