Then one day, I grew up. The fairytales that I came to love became just that, fairytales. Now, I live in a time where hooking up is a social norm. Where instead of meeting, your options are to either swipe right or swipe left.

What has happened in society that has changed the way that we find love? Gone are the days where women are asked on dates, where he comes to the door, meets your parents, and takes you somewhere special for your date.

Dating has managed to morph into texting each other, “here” and deciding to, “Netflix and chill.” Although, Netflix and chill is a great low key date, it shouldn’t be all of your dates. Sitting on the couch watching episodes on a lap top, isn’t a great date to get to know one another.

What is it exactly that has changed the way we date in today's society? Is it, perhaps, the emerging amount of dating shows like the Bachelor? Or is it that, we, as a society, have grown out of the idea of dating to find a mate to spend their lives with?

Maybe what I’m looking for; this idea of “the one,” doesn’t exist, at least not anymore. I am no longer convinced that as a culture, we are searching for love, or for the elusive “one.” As much as I would like to believe that I will one day find him, I know one thing for sure. In a culture of swiping left and right, we should stop objectifying one another in relationships.

We shouldn’t judge a person solely based on their looks. Looks are important in relationships, but they aren’t what is going to build a strong and lasting relationship. Relationships are built based on trust, similar interests, and similar future goals.

Relationships don’t work if the couple doesn’t want the same results in the end, or like any of the same things. Of course, there are always selections. You wouldn’t want your partner to like everything that you like. That would get boring and annoying in the end. Instead, you should look for someone who likes the same kinds of things, but also has interests that are different from yours too. This will make for a stronger connection between you two in the end.

Usually, a person’s looks are the sole basis for the relationship, because, let’s face it, you want to be attracted to the person you’re getting into a relationship with. This is what most dating sites give you to build your relationship in the beginning, but after that it is up to you to build the rest of the relationship through spending time together, having long talks, and discovering all the things you love about the person that you're with.

In the end, it may not be the fairytale ending that you imagined, but it will be a magical, romantic, updated fairytale that fits into the society that we live in today. Who knows, you may even end up swiping left and realizing that you've found your Prince Charming, and in the end you will be his 'Tinderella.'