Whether it’s the person you’re supposed to marry, the person you call your best friend, or the person that constantly crosses paths with you and you don’t understand why, you have a person. Sometimes you find that person and it's smooth sailing. Other times you find that person and you never know it until they’re gone. Sometimes, one of the saddest times of all is when you find that person and you know wholeheartedly that they are yours and you are theirs, but the timing is completely wrong. This circumstance is the most difficult of them all because there is nothing you can really do about it. It’s all beyond your control.
Timing sucks! It truly does. We spend so much of our time searching for things insignificant and wishing, working for, and wanting things that don’t matter. Time is either on your side, or it’s against you. More often than not, time is fighting you with all of its will and might. We fight time when it comes to studying, scheduling, working, socializing, relaxing, and just trying to balance our lives. It’s something we can’t control. We can’t stop it. We can’t slow it down. We can’t speed it up. We can’t rewind it. It’s just something we are left to deal with and that’s that. Especially when it comes to the interactions we have with others. We can’t control when we meet people and we can’t always control how much time we get with them either. We just have to enjoy the time as it is.
People will come and go out of our lives. We come in contact with people every day. Whether you realize it or not, we come in contact with at least one new person a day. On the news, on the radio, crossing the street, walking into a restaurant, store, bathroom, sharing an elevator, walking through a park, whatever it is you do, you see a new face each day. You just may not remember the person after that brief interaction. You can be in the vicinity of your person and never know it until your courses collide.
I think the idea that there is someone out there for everyone is a beautiful thought. I joke just as much as everyone else that my person is lost somewhere or stuck in a room and I will never know them, but that is just because it is easier than to acknowledge that something so honest and exciting like that could actually be real.
The hardship that goes along with this idea is that the moment when you know you met your person and you know they are something that is supposed to be significant in your life, but the timing that you meet is terrible. You’re too young. They’re too busy. Finances are wrong. Jobs are bad. Distance is far. Language barriers. Sickness. Who knows? A truly heartbreaking moment is when you know the person that God has chosen for you and they are an imminent part of your life cannot be a part of it when you want them to be due to outside factors beyond either of your control. Especially when you feel like they are your soulmate, the love of your life, and your other half, but it’s just not the right time to be with them. It is said that everything happens for a reason and that may be true. We just don’t always know what that reason is. I have faith that everything works out the way it is supposed to in the end. It’s just sad to think that sometimes the chances we have, we don’t notice until they are gone.
People have a way of impacting us. Sometimes your person isn’t meant to be with you forever. Rather, their brief time is all that was intended by the bigger man upstairs and you have to appreciate it for what it is worth. It’s a blessing either way. They showed you what they were supposed to, that there is someone special for you in some way. You hope that someday that you will reconnect with them in the way you felt, but if it’s not meant to be that way, then inevitably you have to let it go.
I believe everyone has a person. I don’t know for sure if I have found my person or not. I don’t think anyone necessarily has an “aha” or an epiphany moment where you just know that you have found them, but rather I think it is something that is precious in the fact that it kind of reveals itself to you over time. For some, there might be a moment when you know for sure that who you have encountered is exactly the person God intended for you. They might be your best friend for life. They might be a teacher you clicked with and mentored you. They might be your childhood friend or someone who helped you out during a tough situation. They could even be your significant other. The beautiful idea that there is a person out there for me is one of the most remarkable feelings I can have in this world. It's something to look forward to.
