No shade toward anyone getting engaged in college and right after. My mom got married at 21 and is still happily married to my dad, so I know it can work.
This is geared toward my gals who feel they MUST get engaged and force relationships to happen in a certain timeline.
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I remember so vividly coming into my freshman year of college and trying to picture my college boyfriend who would turn into my husband. I would meet him in some precious way like dropping a pencil in class or a date party. We would take game day pictures we could show our kids one day and study together in RBD. Aw so cute, right?
Like I really thought everyone gets engaged after college. Most people in my family did that. Everyone around me who was older was doing that. I really thought that's the next step in order for me to move forward in my adult life. "I MUST get married right after college."
Now, as a senior, I am terrified of my freshman thoughts lol. I am 21, I have no idea what my career will be, and get a pit in my stomach thinking of needing to be married in less than a year.
It feels absolutely rushed and so insane and young to me. Not like I have the precious boyfriend I created in my head when I was 17, but even if I did... I wouldn't want him to propose right now. I still have so much I want to learn and find out about myself. I feel like I have my head on straight and I know what I want to do and what I expect, but I want to completely know myself before I add someone else into the mix. (Note: This is also easy for me because I have no potential prospects lol).
And moving away from my sad tangent... I really am happy with my situation. The guys I have talked to in college have let me down in different ways, but I am super thankful for all the experiences. I have learned so much about myself and what I deserve. I have noticed all the good from the guys I've talked to (wow I sound like a player. I've only talked to a few guys, not dated chill).
The good parts about them I realize I need or want in my future man. I also learned a lot about myself. Things I want my future husband to expect of me. I feel like as single girls we focus so much on how our husband should act and forget that we are half of this equation and need to act right too. I've not acted right A LOT so hit me up if you need some lessons you don't want to learn the hard way. All that aside, as I stop my tangent, mistakes suck but there is always something good that can come out of it.
So, my sweet ladies who are stressing, knock it off! Put your cliché seatbelt on... I'm coming in.
God has someone perfectly picked out for each of us. It has taken me a long time to be comfortable with this thought and I still slip into my negative thoughts sometimes. Going back to the fact that God knows exactly what I am going to do and who I will be with really comforts me.
College girls without a rock, we will graduate the same and *spoiler* we will be absolutely fine. Don't rush love because you think you need to get married right after college.
College girls with a rock, invite me to your wedding. I'm all for free food, drinks, and a nice Instagram post.
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