Grow through what you go through.
Every single bump, downfall, and all the adversity you go through in life is happening for a reason- to form you into the person you're supposed to become. What people fail to see a lot of the time is just that.
Life can test your strength in a lot of different ways. It throws you curve balls and sometimes becomes all too much. On the other hand, expecting life to be wonderful all the time is not reality in the least bit. We can get overly consumed by all these little bumps in our path. We assume it's disrupting who we are trying to become, but what if we saw these bumps as opportunities to grow, learn, and become a better version of ourselves? Don't let the rough times in life consume you, instead- let it fuel your fire.
People who have gone through defeat, misery, heartbreak, or losing someone they loved, are people who have also gained experience in life. Experiences that have brought them through ups and downs, and have let them gain an appreciation, sensitivity, and understanding of life that fills them with compassion and understanding of other people. When the hard times hit, you can let it define you, destroy you, or strengthen you.
When we are young, most of us are taught that pain is harmful and something we want to avoid. This is a silly concept because we all go through pain and hard times in life. So, the real thing we should be teaching each other is that expressing what we truly feel is really ok. We as humans need to feel pain, just as we need to feel being alive or being happy. If you allow yourself to feel pain through whatever situation you're going through, it'll be easier to move through it.
So as I stated before- grow through what you go through. It's a beautiful thing when we can see the scars of all the shit life has put us all through, and put it in a new perspective. When we take what we go through and learn from it, that's when we begin to blossom and grow into the person we are meant to become.
"Pain throws your heart to the ground, love turns the whole thing around, no it won't go all the way it should, but I know the heart of life is good" ~ John Mayer.