Five years ago, my life changed when my best friend began to suffer from anorexia. It started with eating less, almost as if she was less hungry; however, after a few weeks my friends and I began to realize that she was eating less and less, and her mood started to change.
Sadly for my friend, this was just the beginning. She was unlucky and unable to overcome her eating disorder. Things got ugly, and for the past five years, I've watched from the sidelines wondering how I could help. What could I do to help her through this? Is there even anything I can do? How do you show someone that they are so much more than what they see in the mirror?
Over the years I've learned a lot about what mental illness and eating disorders are. The truth is eating disorders affect more than just the person they take root in. It takes root in the life of every person that is left to watch as their loved one suffers.
My best friend once described her illness as walking around every day with bricks tied to her ankles. For me, watching her suffer has been like living every day under the weight of a loaded truck.
When you watch someone you love suffer, there is a special part of you that suffers along with them. Though it often seems like there is nothing you can do for them, know that simply standing by them through everything is the greatest gift you can give. Don't be afraid to tell them how you feel, and let them know that you are there walking with them every step of the way. Your support will make more of a difference that you can ever understand.
If you have concerns about a someone, ask an adult for help. Mental illness and eating disorders are not things you can fix on your own. The National Eating Disorder Association is a great place to learn more about eating disorders and other ways in which you can help those suffering.
If you yourself are suffering, don't be afraid to ask for help. If you are not ready to talk to a loved one, call a helpline. There are so many people here to help. And know that you can get through this with the right help and support.
Helplines:
NAMI: 1-800-950-6264
NEDA: 1-800-931-2237
Teen Line: 310-855-4673
