Like many nineteen year old girls, I consider myself a mushy gushy romantic. I am a sucker for the good Nicholas Sparks Zac Efron starring movie, over the top proposal or "prom-posal" and those Twitter and Instagram accounts that have the names along the lines of "Couple Goals" or "Relationship Goals."
Call me old fashioned, but I am absolutely in love with the idea of true chivalry. Of class, gentlemanhood, and just true love being expressed curtious and creative ways.
And Jim and Pam are most DEFINITELY the poster couple for the kind of behavior that I desire and love. From cute gestures across the office, proposals in front of a gas station in the middle of the rain, and little spontaneous adventures this is the couple every girl wants.
Besides the obvious physical attraction, there are so many more qualities in a relationship that young women look for that guys do not understand.
As cliche as it sounds, every girl wants the spark. Yes, the fireworks. The butterflies in the stomach. The whole deal.
We want to not only feel a connection with our bodies, but with our minds. Our souls.
For me personally, I live for the heart to hearts. I love talking to a guy who is open. Someone who can talk about their feelings, their thoughts, their problems at work or school, and their biggest hopes and dreams, as well as their fears.
What makes them tick, what's their biggest pet peeve, which family members they feel closest too and which they cannot stand?
What's their favorite movie, are they a sports guy? Do they follow football or soccer? Are they secretly obsessed with The Voice?
But one of my personal biggest admirable qualities in a guy is their passion to be creative. This can be in either art, photography, music, writing, or performing.
But my #1 favorite quality in a guy is their passion to be creative -- whether that be in writing, art, photography, singing, rapping, dancing, or performing.
The attraction of course has been very real since I was a little girl. My parents, both music teachers, would sing around the house and my father and I would play little rhythm games on the counter and he inspired me to become motivated to pursue a life in the arts.
Music and art is a different language. It is not linear. But it is universal. It is felt, as well as heard. It is understood, projected, protested, and used for good.
It is used to communicate a message that cannot be expressed otherwise. It is a way of life and of feeling.
I have met several guys who share this passion with me. It is incredibly admirable, and in my opinion, very sexy. It shows a persistence and care for something that is bigger than all of us.
As I have been through my fair share of heartbreaks, I can now say it is absolutely CRUCIAL to share this passion in a relationship. I feel that I cannot be truly happy in one without it.
I know one guy who is particularly moved by music. With a rough family background and life, music is his escape. Art is his escape. And hearing him talk about it is the most fascinating and admirable thing. I can listen to him tell me his biggest dreams and fears until he is blue in the face.
We bond over art. Unspoken messages. A meaning in a rhythm, a rhyme.
Complex illusions over a spectrum of colors, of broad brush strokes and specks.
The kisses and energy is converted through a tempo, a dynamic change.
And this is so much better than just stating the obvious. Once you have that connection with someone, it is hard to find anything else like it. Maybe because I've grown up in a creative household I've been groomed to these things.
But you might find this connection through other outlets. Maybe sports, a specific major, type of movie or TV show, fashion -- there is no specific way to connect through the unspoken obvious.
