I can’t even begin to describe how frazzled I get when I hear “drunk words are sober thoughts.” No, no,no, and NO! Drunk words are NOT sober thoughts. Why you may ask? Because if someone really and truly felt a certain way they could say it to you sober. It’s a simple as that. When people drunk text or call you it’s not because they really want to talk to you, or miss you, it’s because you’re conveniently replying to them. Maybe they’re lonely and want someone to talk to. Maybe they couldn’t find anyone to “take home” from the bar and are hitting you up as a “backup plan”. Either way buying into their lies and games only hurts you in the end.

When you’re intoxicated or anyone for that matter your judgment is impaired immensely. People are literally not in their right state of mind to make decisions or accusations. What is happening in their surroundings plays into their “drunk agenda.” Maybe their agenda is to find someone to take home that night. Chances are if their having no luck they know they can hit you up for a late night “extravaganza”. Maybe their sober cab bailed and they don’t want to pay for a taxi so they think calling you for a ride is a good idea. There could be a million reasons why someone drunk texts you but only one person will know the real reason why. That person will not be you. They will say whatever they want because their intuition is down. They will lie, they will think drastically and they will assume. In the end the only person left hurting is you. You will hurt because if you fell for their vicious trap you bought into their lies and the next day everything goes back to normal. Nothing will have changed.

Take it from someone who has believed the reality is no fun. Once a guy told me he “liked me” via text when he was pretty intoxicated. Me being the naïve nineteen-year-old believed it. I believed that hey maybe he finally woke up to realize that maybe we could be more then friends. But man was I in for a rude awakening the next day when he not only brushed it off but didn’t ever bring it up again to me. He kept saying “we would talk about it” and we never did. I wanted to believe that maybe deeeeep down he really meant it but nope he really didn’t. If someone’s actions don’t add up to their drunk words you’ve got a problem.

It’s hard to separate reality from fantasy. You want to believe this person means what they say especially when they’re a little on the edge but the truth is alcohol doesn’t bring out the best in most people. Knowing what you deserve from a person and holding people to standards is important. You don’t deserve a two am text asking to “hang out”. Nothing good ever happens after two am. You don’t deserve to be flourished with mind games that make you overthink and hurt you in the end. You never want to settle. Settling for a drunk text is like drinking cheap vodka; it hurts going down and coming up. Don’t settle for a drunk text. Don’t settle for bad habits. Because you will be the one hurting the next morning.