As I unpacked my bags in mid August, my heart was ready to burst with excitement. After months and months of waiting, I was finally moving into my dream college. Packing my stuff was hard, especially when I couldn't bring everything I wanted too. Favorite hair brush? Check! Shampoo and conditioner? Check! Boyfriend? Nope. It was heart breaking.
After years of being there, my best friend was going to be 250 miles apart.
When I got here, I would say the dreaded "B" word and get dirty looks, like I was the girl who just couldn't let go of my high school relationship. People would pity me because of it, like I was missing out on something because I have a boyfriend. The whole thing just didn't make sense to me! What was so wrong with having a boyfriend while away at college?
Why did everyone nod at me with sad eyes when I said my boyfriend was home?
The only aspect of college which I do not participate in is obviously the one night stands. I have never participated in the "walk of shame" and I don't see a problem in that! If that kind of lifestyle is for you, by all means do what makes you happy.
But the idea of waking up next to a complete stranger, unsure of their name is not my cup of tea.
It doesn't appeal to me at all. After a long day of class or a rough fight with my best friend, there's nothing I want to do besides call my boyfriend and talk to him about it. And as much as it sucks being apart, there is nothing that could begin to compare to being united again.
When it comes to college and relationships, people develop this preconceived notion that it can't work and I'm not sure where that comes from. If you and your significant other truly want the relationship to work it can work! The key to a long distance relationship is communication. If you and your long distance partner cannot talk about things, the relationship will fall apart.
You are miles upon miles apart and if you don't tell your boyfriend what bothers you, it will never work.
I am so fortunate. My boyfriend always encourages me to go out and meet new people. He has never tried to control me or discourage me from my adventures. There is no part of me that regrets staying with my boyfriend for college. It was never even a thought in my mind not too.
