I’ve never been that girl. The one who society so wants me to be. I’ve never dreamt of my Prince Charming, or the wedding dress I would one day wear. It’s not that I think there’s anything wrong with having the goal of earning an “MRS”, I really do think marriage can be quite beautiful and right for some people, I just don't think it's for me.

The most common thing I’m told when I tell someone "I don’t want to get married" is “you just haven’t met the right guy, you’ll see”, but that’s really not it at all. I don't think people understand how patronizing that can be. I genuinely just don’t want to get married and it’s not because I don’t think im worthy, or that all the guys I've dated to this point have sucked (which is true), but that I want to be able to be selfish. I want to be able to focus on my own personal success and career. I want to be able to drop everything at a moments notice and fly to Fiji, or Thailand, or South Africa and not be worried about the man I leave at home. I want to be entirely independent and self-sufficient.

I truly do think marriage can be a beautiful thing, but that doesn’t mean it has to be my goal. I am tired of hearing “oh sweetie, you'll find someone” because the reality is I don’t want to be found.