Growing up in this generation, you hear a lot of girls say, "I'll just have sex with him, then I'll know if I really love him." Ladies, don't use sex to define the relationship. You shouldn't define your love for someone based on how they are in bed. You should fall in love with someone because they are your best friend and the thought of one minute with out them breaks your heart. Fall in love with someone who will watch chick flicks with you when you're sad. Fall in love with someone who will push you to be the best you can be no matter what. Fall in love with someone who doesn't mind listening about your day. Find someone who will be your best friend and your boyfriend.

You miss out on so much when you base your entire relationship off sex. It takes all of the emotion out of it. To have intimate love, you need intimacy and to have intimacy, you need love. They both go hand in hand, so trust me when I say that you're not going to find what you're looking for out of a pointless hookup.

Sex is a phenomenal thing, but it is meant to be between two people who love each other.

Ladies, you need to love yourself. You need to understand that you are absolutely amazing, and you don't need a guy to tell you that. And you don't need to have sex to prove to anyone that you're worth it. I know you're worth it and so do you. So don't give it up for someone who doesn't care about you.

You deserve to be loved for who you are, and how amazing you can be. Don't let some low life tell you that you're defined by whether you have sex or not. Don't waste your time on people that aren't looking out for your best interest. Because once you find that one person that you know you love, and they love you, it is going to be the most amazing feeling of your entire life.

Relationships take time, don't rush right into sex, learn about each other. Find out what their favorite song is, watch their favorite movie with them and watch their eyes light up at their favorite part, I promise that once you get to know them, it will all be worth it.

Just remember, don't waste your time trying to use sex to define The relationship, it won't work.