I was in a relationship for over three years. I was not happy. I was not growing. I was not becoming who I wanted to become. I could feel myself heading towards a downhill spiral that was actually out of control. I became depressed. I felt sheltered. I didn't feel like I had any respect, not only for myself but with my boyfriend at the time. That is not how a relationship should be.

It's because I settled. Something told me that I was never going to be able to find someone who loves me for the real me.

Here I am. I'm finally out of that relationship that took away every single ounce of happiness that I have ever had in my life. And do you know what?

I am thriving.

I'm thriving because I realized how I should be treated.

I deserve to be appreciated. I deserve to be remembered about. I deserve to be thanked. I deserve to feel like I matter. To some, I may not be "beautiful." However, I deserve to feel beautiful. I should be treated like I'm worth more than treasure.

I deserve a Hell of a lot more than I think I should. No, this isn't "too confident" or "too cocky." It's learning what to expect in my future relationships. Ever since my last relationship, my standards are so high.

Settling has taught me that I will never settle for anyone ever again. If I ever get the opportunity to date Drake, Hell yeah I'll date Drake. However, if Drake doesn't meet my standards, that's an example of why I need to let go.

You are worth so much more than you give yourself credit for. Please don't settle just because "they're cute" or "they'll change," because looks fade, and I promise you that they will change. Find a Derek Shepherd.