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5 Things You Just Don't Say To A Child Of Divorced Parents

Why in your right mind would that be okay? Are you crazy?

Madisyn Stauffer

Oct 31, 2018

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5 Things You Just Don't Say To A Child Of Divorced Parents

Madisyn Stauffer

Having divorced parents are any age is tough, and sorry to tell you, but it never gets easier. There are so many reasons why parents split and so many different outcomes. Not only does it affect the two getting a divorce, but it affects the kids so much more than one could imagine. I come from a divorced family and things aren't a cake walk. You take sides, you listen to your parent's different sides and ultimately, never understanding why it happened. You could think of all the reasons, maybe your fault, maybe how you acted, maybe how this could've stemmed even before you knew things were about to go down.

No matter the case, there are some things you should never say to a child of divorced parents. Ever.

"Are you okay?"

The question of all questions. Do I look okay to you? Is something suppose to look wrong? I'm fine, besides I have a whole new family life, but thanks for asking.

"How are your siblings taking all of this?"

Well, this could go both ways, considering if your siblings are younger or older. But if your siblings are younger, it's always tougher. They have no idea what is wrong and why mom and dad don't like in the same house. But everyone takes it differently and that's just the part that stinks.

"At least you'll have two holidays to go to!"

Y'all act like this a good thing. You're totally...wrong. I dread having to chose which house to go over first or how much time I have to spend there, how much to eat at one house so I'm not full for the next, who I'm going to see at these places, the things you have to witness, etc. It just doesn't sound like the best ride at Disneyland.

"How's your mom/dad doing?"

They are doing fine, just separated obviously. They were unhappily married, saw things differently, (so many other reasons) so now I have to deal with the aftermath. Or you answer the question as my mom/dad is blah blah, blah, or "I don't know how my mom/dad is doing, I don't talk to them. Which stems from the question of, "why?" A unwanted cycle of questions.

"Who do you live with?"

One, that's none of your business. But you can't get out of the question being asked. "I live with my dad because things are complicated, I live with my mom because of certain things that happened." It's never easy, just like a divorce isn't.

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1. Me after every class

2. If you really care about your grades

3. When you get a new homework assignment

4. When people ask what you're going to do after college

5. When you see people who don't study and get good grades

6. We're all broke here

7. FREE FOOD IS FREE FOOD!

8. When it seems like everyone in class is smart - EXCEPT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR GROUP PROJECT!!

Other than knowledge and all those important things

How to take stairs.

Caffeine is your friend.

How to study.

Finding free food.

How to take a nap anywhere.

How to appreciate sleep.

How to procrastinate productively.

Surprise: This is not on the syllabus

1. As a freshman, one does get to be called “freshman” by upperclassmen when they walk to parties in a mob of people.

2. Some of the best stories happen after 2 a.m.

3. Upperclassmen live for meal swipes from freshman because they are poor and need free food.

4. People are struggling just as much as you are so you're not alone.

5. You will never take privacy or personal space for granted ever again.

6. You are not the only one who has slept on the community bathroom floor after a night out.

7. Skipping class for Netflix is a valid excuse.

8. It’s totally acceptable to bring a pot of coffee, a sleeping bag and a pillow to the library.

9. Having class with a friend is the best because you can trade off days on who goes to class.

10. When you are a senior, you take the easiest classes to boost your GPA.

11. How to pull an all-nighter.

12. How to handle drunk people.

13. The drunk you does not look out for sober you about 90 percent of the time.

14. How to deal with a hangover.

15. How to interact with people very different from you.

16. The perfect amount to procrastinate on every assignment.

17. How to pass a class without paying for the textbook that was "required."

18. How to calculate your grades to see what you need on every test in order to maintain a passing grade.

19. How to hook-up with someone without getting emotions involved (but we all know that doesn’t happen).

20. How to handle your roommate when you want to strangle them.

21. That you miss your parent’s every day.

22. How to get into a bar when you aren’t 21.

23. How to BS on assignments, out loud and on your resume.

24. That theme parties are the greatest.

25. How to find free events that have free food.

26. That when there are puppies on campus it will be the greatest day of your life.

27. Alarms are necessary and you must set like seven of them in order to wake up in time for class.

28. Greek parties are exactly how they are in movies.

29. Care packages are treated like Christmas presents.

30. The friends you meet in college will become your bridesmaids and groomsmen.

31. That printers only break when you need them the most.

32. Cereal, ramen noodles, Easy Mac and microwavable pancakes can be used for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

33. That classes before 8 a.m. should be illegal.

34. Changing your major is OK.

Don't let the thesaurus-inspired vocabularies in our résumés fool you. We're actually just big kids.

"You should know exactly what career is right for your future by the time you're 18."

"Save all your money."

"Get plenty of sleep and adjust to a regular sleep schedule."

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"Surround yourself with good, moral people."

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